Brought a tear

Losing a partner
#1

This brought a tear :heart::heart::heart: xxx

YOU’RE THE GHOST

There’s a part of the grieving process,
where your soul kind of leaves your body too.
As though it’s off searching for the one you lost,
somewhere in the ether.

You walk around,
doing all the right things,
putting one foot in front of the other,
living,
but it’s really as though you’re the ghost.

Perhaps you are.

Perhaps your soul searches,
until you find the one you miss,
and they tell you to go back and live.

So, when that numbness passes brave one,
maybe it’s time to do what you are told,
go back and live,
twice as hard.

You don’t belong there in the ether,
nor do you need to search for the one you lost,
they find you.
And when they do,

you’ll feel it.

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#2

Hi @AlysonandSteve,

Thank you so much for sharing this with the community :blue_heart: I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.

Take good care,
Alex

#3

That’s lovely. How have you been? Are you still struggling as much or are the days getting a little easier?

#4

@AlysonandSteve Just read your post, I think it sums up what a lot of us feel, and experience. Are things any easier for you now, be good to hear how you are coping Much Love xx,

#5

Hi @sandi @Ali29

Things are no easier for me.

I’m really scared all the time and petrified to be on my own.

I wake up shaking every morning and full of fear. I’m not sure who to turn to for help.

Did you ever feel this way???

Aly xxx

#6

@AlysonandSteve
No I’m sorry, I don’t feel like this but I did live on my own for a long time before I met my Rich which has helped enormously.

Hopefully your hypnotherapy will help you. If not you could look into CBT cognitive behavioral therapy which helps to retrain the brain.

Please don’t do anything! Keep in touch here. Talk about your day, no matter what it’s filled with. Samaritan’s are there if your desperate use them.

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#7

@AlysonandSteve So sorry to hear things are no easier, I hope you are getting some support from counselling? I had a lot of anxiety in the first few months which was related to PTSD as my husband also died suddenly. Counselling and therapy helped me manage this. I haven’t experienced fear, but it is a natural part of grief, we have lost our anchor, not knowing who we are or where we’re going or sometimes where we live. This all takes time for our brains to rewire. @Ali29 posted a really helpful narrative of how our neural pathways in our brain have to learn to rewire when we lose someone significant, and this takes time. You are doing amazingly well by talking and sharing on here, and hopefully seeking support from your GP and counselling. it’s still small steps, and we are here when you need xxx

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#8

I’m trying so hard to keep it together but I don’t have the will to try anymore…I can’t live without him xxx

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#9

@AlysonandSteve I am so sorry you are stuck in this void of grief. It is exhausting and I can hear that right now you don’t have the will to try anyone. What can we do to best support you here? Love and hugs xxx

#10

@sandi

Thank you for reaching out.

I don’t what I can do.

I’m under the doc and see a councillor…

I have some wonderful friends but my family feel I should be better now so feeling so unloved and no longer needed here now.

The fear is crippling me….xxxx

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#11

@AlysonandSteve You are doing all the things you can and that’s important. I am sure your counsellor would have said there is no timeline on grief, it takes as long as it does to feel able to slowly move forward. Perhaps your family feel helpless seeing you in such distress. Often, they don’t know what to say or do and just want you to feel better. Have you spoken with your counsellor about your fear, if so, what strategies have they given you to try and help? Keep reaching out, you are needed and we are here to give support. xxx