Brownie

Losing a partner
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I lost my husband suddenly 4 weeks ago and I’m so lonely.

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Brownie1 so very sorry you find yourself here. We have all been through ( and still are doing )the loneliness, despair and heartbreak. 35 weeks for me today.
It’s very early days for you and everything is raw. Please keep posting - you are not alone on here. You’ll find everyone understands and no one judges.

It’s been a lifeline for me as it’s the only place where people truly care x

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Thanks Jody. Been out with a friend. Just come home to a house in darkness. Don’t know how to get through this. I used to be such an upbeat person.

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It’s awful, we go out as people suggest, see everyone going about their business as usual when our lives have been torn apart. Then come home to emptiness.

I know if I can hang in there in time it will get easier, painful less often but each day seems like a week!

I continually talk to Luie, kiss his photos, touch the container his ashes are in. I don’t think I’ve 100% accepted that he’ll never be here any more, but that denial is keeping me going.
If I do think of the years ahead without him I feel like I’ve been torn apart.
It’s only been a little over five weeks since he went.

I’m sorry to be going on about me, I meant to try and offer some comfort!
I do find reading on this site helps, to know we’re all hurting and struggling to know how to cope. We’re not alone with our grief.

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Brownie, it’s all so new to you. It’s 11 weeks and I’m beginning to feel like a veteran. Day by day, or even minute by minute is how we do it. No expectations. Some days you think you are getting the hang of things, then everything suddenly feels hopeless. One thing is for certain, you will never be the same person. We have to get to know the new us. But you will. You have already done 4 weeks, I bet that sounded impossible in those first few days. I cannot believe it will soon be 3 months for me. A hell of a long way to go for the both of us, but I know we will learn to live the new future we have. Try to believe in yourself.

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Well I’m out for a meal with friends at 6pm. However I’m not really eating. I’ve lost a stone and a half. Must leave lights on before I go out. Lets hope for some happiness and good times for everyone in 2025.

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