Bubbled Over today

It’s half term where we are so I have been entertaining my two boys (9&7yr) all week-it’s also 10weeks today since I lost my dad. I thought I was doing well then my mum phoned this morning and offered to take the kids for hours (I snapped that offer up because I’m exhausted)… I took them to a party this morning and just dropped them at my mums; as soon as I closed that car door, the tears came! I had no warning and don’t know why. I drove 10minutes home, crying. I feel exhausted and also relieved at not being responsible for the kids for 3hrs (a first in a very long time)… I never saw this wave coming but sitting here now feeling really sad and missing my dad.


Hello @Buddleia9,

I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully, someone will have some thoughts to share.

Take good care,

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Ah @Buddleia9 I think this is often the case, we get blindsided by a wave of grief when we least expect it. All you can do is give in to the tears, let them fall and feel the loss. Sometimes it feels better afterwards…:pray::sparkling_heart:xx


You cry until you can’t cry anymore it’s part of grieving it’s that love you had for your dad that bond that can never be broken he’s still with you x



Shopping & working, I’m ok Coping well actually, getting a lot done.
Then it’s Friday… And I’m back there, the day you died.

Hoovering & online banking, today’s a good day. Things are slowly on the up.
Then it’s the 18th…And I’m back there, the date you died.

Gardening & summer holidays, smiling and laughing. Fun times with the kids.
Then it’s August… And I’m back there, the month you died.

A frail widow, her hearts’ taken a heavy blow, an ambulance is called.
Then we’re in Resus… And I’m back there, where you died.

The true sadness of your anniversary doesn’t come around once a year, it’s every week, every month, every year, every hospital visit…Then I’m back there, when you died.

Buddleia Nov 2023