Can’t accept she’s gone

Losing a child
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My daughter died suddenly on 3rd January this year whilst staying in France. They do things quickly there and she was cremated on the 10th of January. I just can’t accept she’s gone. I know lots of you have gone through a lot sadder losses, my daughter is 47, and her son is living with us whilst she and her husband were staying in France, but I just can’t seem to move on.

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dear Flo, I am so sorry. its unbearable pain and sadness - how are we expected to carry on! I do not think there is a hierarchy or a ‘sadder loss’ - you are a bereaved mother and your loss is enormous. I lost my gorgeous daughter aged 20 - in August - she was in France too, on holiday with her friend and the parents. We have had - and continue to have the worst experience of the French authorities - the police and the Prococeur are incompetent at best… and it will continue for months and months. meanwhile I miss my girl more and more each day. how are you managing to fill your days? we are at 6 months, cant say its any easier - but have recognised some coping strategies that ‘help’… though feel such guilt constantly at trying to manage this better. we have found walking in nature is a source of peace, our poor dog has never walked so far. plus I have found a bereaved parents group a great support - they get it… where as so many friends like to tell me they know ho I feel as they have lost a parent…they simply cannot. feel free to PM me if you would like x

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I’m so sorry to you for the loss of your daughter, we are I’m afraid all equal when it comes to the loss of a child no matter what age it just isn’t the order of things and there can be absolutely nothing worse. I lost my son last September, he was 21, it would’ve been his 22nd birthday last week, it will never be anything we can come to terms with :heart:

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Hi @Flo2,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here.

I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

  • Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
  • The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.

Please take good care and keep reaching out if you feel you need to,

Abi