I lost my husband 11 months ago ,I am coping most days ( sort of) ,but some days I can’t be bothered to do anything ,basically being lazy
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@Jennifer4 hello Jennifer.. that’s perfectly normal to be honest.
You have lost your precious soul mate and somehow have to fine the strength and motivation to keep living when you’re experiencing trauma of loosing them.
Even getting out the bed on the morning can be challenging,cooking,sleeping in the same bed you once shared with them. Iam sure you used to do lots of things together and now that he’s gone you’re definitely have times when you just can’t be bothered.Just do the best you can and you’ve somehow managed to get through the last 11 gruelling months.
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Thank you
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Hello Jennifer, so sorry for your loss . I lost my husband 3 months ago, and I know how it feels to not want to do anything …I use to be so active, and now honestly I just don’t want to be bothered, ..i have people call me and I just don’t want to talk, im not interested in small talk. But I make myself go out for walks, it helps, it gives me energy for the rest of the day, i just don’t want to deal with people. ..not now, I don’t want to hear about their plans or whatever, i know I probably sound mean, but im not , I just miss my precious husband, hes the one I want 
, take care and may God bless you 
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I have a little dog so I do have to care and walk him , l am envious of couples who are going on holiday and doing things together? Don’t get me wrong I don’t want them to be in my position ,
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Hi and sorry for your loss. You’re not being lazy you’re grieving, and your life has changed dramatically. You’re not even the person you used to be. I lost my partner suddenly almost nine months ago now. I have no motivation at all.
Sometimes I just sit in his recliner chair most of the day. I have gone out for meals with friends but I don’t enjoy it. I just go through the motions.
I just try to keep on top of basic housework and looking after the garden pots. I only do that as my partner kept the garden lovely and I do it in his memory. I function better than the early days but can’t see life going forward anytime soon. I hopes things get a bit lighter for you as the months progress. You are not alone in the way you feel, many of us really get it. Take care.
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Hello Norma, I could have written most of that. That just sounded like me…sit in his recliner, go out with friends but I rather stay home, barely do the minimal around the house,…hopefully with time ill feel better. Take care
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Not being lazy; grieving. Allow yourself this. We encounter far too many judgements from others we could do without judging ourselves.
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You hit the nail on the head… I’d select them in 3 groups: 1. people who don’t care, no matter what you do, 2. people who avoid us, because we don’t keep up with their life style, 3. people who care and try to help… The last group is the smallest one, for sure…
Janka
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