Can’t dream about him

Coping with bereavement
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Hi everyone, I hope you’re all doing okay.

I lost someone coming up to nearly a year ago (I can’t believe how fast it’s gone :frowning: ) and most nights I enjoy getting into bed as that’s where i feel I have a chance to see my loved one.

I talk to his photo and to the sky and beg him to allow me to dream about him. For some reason I just can’t seem to! I rest my head on the pillow praying that I see him.

He’s on my mind constantly and I’ve only managed to have about 2 dreams about him so far. I know dreaming about him means I have to lose him all over again in the morning but i just want to see him :cry:

Does anybody else struggle to dream of there loved one? And if so, do you think it’s our brains way of protecting us? It just upsets me.

Lots of love to everyone here x

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I understand what you’re saying completely!! I want to be able to dream about Andy but I can’t seem to at all. The only one dream I’ve had where he ‘featured’ was exactly that, and it wasn’t a positive experience! I want to be able to fall asleep and see our happy times, and for him to be guiding me into what I can only see as a bleak future :cry:

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Hi there!

It’s such a shame isn’t it. The first dream I had was him physically in front of me in an outdoor setting. He didn’t speak to me, no communication or contact was made but I woke up feeling blessed to of had it.

The most recent dream I had of him was just through texting? In my dream I knew he had passed of course but he was texting me - said that he was proud of me. I can’t shake it away, maybe there’s a deeper meaning behind that?

Ugh, I just want to be able to hug him! Or just even make eye contact with him at this point - anything! Nothing is working, I ask him every night and he never comes :cry:

Sending warm hugs and kisses to you darling xx :heart:

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Hi

I’ve had a few dreams, a lot of the time I can’t remember much.
I write down what I can rememder

The most vivid one was where he came and put his arm round me and said “everything will be ok”
That still makes me cry

In quite a few he goes and I find I’m looking for him and can’t find him, then I realise why
Broken heart again.:broken_heart:

But I’ll take that for those few precious moments of feeling we’re together again.

Oops made myself cry again :sleepy:

Love and hugs
Liz x x

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Bless you Liz. Those dreams of him must feel so precious to you, comforting but ever so heartbreaking at the same time. Sending lots of warm hugs to you - hopefully we both find the person we are missing in our dreams many more times to come :heart:

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Thankyou @Sienna2

I ask him everynight to come to me in my dreams

Sometimes he does, most times he doesn’t

God this journey is so hard isn’t it

Sending you love and big hugs
X x

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I too have not been able to dream of Stephen. I hope to most nights,. I only dreamt of him once and that was shortly after learning of his passing. Bizarrely I dreamt of him the night he passed away miles away on holiday.
I would very much like to dream of him.

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I ask Roger every night to come to me in my dreams.
He does now and again but not often.
Trouble with dreams is they fade so quickly that you may be dreaming of Stephen without remembering

X x

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