Cant cope

Its been two weeks since my wife passed away.funeral next week.i am really struggling with anxiety and being to make me.calm a bit

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The book "self help for you nerves’ by Claire weekes is excellent. Very old school but full of wisdom. It teaches you ‘to let time pass’ and ‘float through stress/anxiety’.
Also meditation music on youtube can be relaxing if you find one that suits you.
Walking is also a great way of getting rid of excess adrenaline.

Hi Allsopp,
The only thing that helped me a little bit was walking in the countryside. It’s a dreadful time when the hours seem endless. My neighbour left his radio on 24/7 when his wife died and that helped much as anything could. Wishing you well. Sadme

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I agree, I have many of times gone for a walk to listen to nature and take in the beauty of the country side. The radio has also helped me in the passed drift off to sleep.

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Yes agree. countryside walks are wonderful therapy. Listen to the sounds and sights of nature. It won’t cure the pain but it does give just a little respite. Better than all the medication. Some mornings I can hardly get out of bed, I hate these mornings but after I struggle out of bed and go out for a long walk with the dogs I can focus on the rest of the day. xxx

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Yes definitely, I am with you there and the dark nights and mornings do not help either. I love hearing the birds sing I find it very uplifting.

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Take your time, don’t push yourself, you want to stay in bed and be on your own…do it. A nice quiet walk and some fresh air is good but in your own time x

Gosh you will be struggling if its only 2 weeks. Its been 8 months for me and still feel like that. Don’t know what advice to give except to say everyone copes differently.

All I can say Allsop is hang on in there. The first weeks after I lost my partner were really rough and I was barely functioning. Thankfully I have two sons at home (aged 9 and 19 years old). So I had to get up to take my younger son to school. I promise things will get easier in time. I hope you have friends and family to support you. i don’t know how I would of coped up to now without mine. Its been almost three months since I lost Tom, my partner, so I am still recovering but I am getting better as each day passes. You will cope in time xxxx