Thank you for your kind words I lost my husband 2years ago after 50 years married so I understand and like you I wonder what on earth can life throw at me now my son and husband are gone I know there are a lot of people worse off than me but it doesn’t ease the pain
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Big breakthrough yesterday…I finally got showered and washed my hair. I am feeling a lot better for it.
I think while I was stuck in dark thoughts I couldnt see the point in anything. Its terrible how grief affect the mind. I always took care of myself and never went months without nasic care.
I think this site made the difference. Thank you all as I see Im not the only one to feel the way I do. Losing a child no matter how or what their age is devastating.
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Hi Mum…, I am so pleased you are feeling a little better. It takes courage to pick yourself up and try to cope. Your husband must be pleased
Wishing you all the strength you will need
All the best
Tom
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@Brandon1 thanks and yes my husband is really relieved. I just have to keep it up now!
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Hi mum, you have a place here to talk and share your feelings and problems. We all want to help you. Sending you strength
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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Can I ask if anyone has had telephone bereavement counselling? I have been offered some at last and want to make the most of it.
Thanks in advance!
Good afternoon everyone. I have had telephone counselling today and wanted to ask how others have found counselling?
Im grateful to be getting 6 sessions and its good to vent to a stranger instead of my husband. I do feel that it will not lessen the grief which maybe is an unreasonable expectation. The only people who understand are sadly others on the same journey.
Thats why this forum is helping me and thank you all. Pre existing depression and grief of my sons suicide nearly took me but I dont want to be the cause of grief to anyone. Its going to be a long time recovering but I want to learn to live with it x
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Hi…… mum, I think It is good to talk thought grief as much as possible as it does help. I think that when we see something that shocks us in some way like an accident or even something horrible on the news the first thing we do is tell someone else and we keep talking to others about it untill we no longer need to. The talking helps us deal with these situations and a bereavement is probably the most traumatic event we go through and the need to talk about it is far greater than our audience. Any opportunity to express our pain and to tell our story is a opportunity to heal.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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I love your positive attitude, you are strong and doing amazing 
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I managed to change my username to hopeful mum. It really pleased me and Im taking anything no mattrr how small as a win and a step forward.
I have started journalling and find it really therapeutic. Sometimes its a list of things Ive done and sometimes its about my thoughts and feelings about my sons suicide. Thanks to everyone who suggested it x
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Hi Hopefulmum, I am pleased you have changed your name. I couldn’t even bring myself to reply with your old name written. It is much more positive.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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Thanks @Brandon1 and glad to hear from you. It really showed what a bad place my mind was in then. Anything, no matter how small that is more positive is a win an well worth doing!
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Hi Hopefulmum, it was very negative and it felt bad to use it. I hope you are more peaceful, it’s early days but you are always giving others hope and positivity.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
Hi Chanti, I hope you are coping with work and looking after your family. Keeping you in my prayers
Wishing you all the best
Tom