I can’t remember what my hubby voice sounded like anymore. That makes me feel sad. I was with him nearly 30years why can’t I remember . I can remember everything else about him.
We were together 50 years and I can remember everything about him except his voice.
I’m shocked & deeply embarrassed to admit it to anyone.
It’s so upsetting.
Dont be embarrassed. I think it’s because when we think of something they said its our voice saying it so we can’t hear there voice if that makes sense. So after time we forget the sound of there voice I have jim on video tape from holidays and such but I can’t bring myself to watch them at the moment.
Hi I still pay for my husbands phone . Because his voicemale recording still on . So I can phone his phone and hear him talk . What I do a lot . Xtake carex
My sister died just a month after my husband and I can hear her voice as clear as a bell in my head. But Doug’s I struggle to remember, we didn’t have smart phones so I have no voicemail, we didn’t do family videos.
I only have him on our daughters wedding video, and yes it does make me cry when I watch it.
The strange thing is, I know I would recognise his voice straight away in a crowd if I heard him.
I can only put it down to grief brain fog. X
Hi . I have some videos with husband on . One of them I was videoing and trying to take photos at the same time. I’m useless at both . Hubby said something to me about it and used my name . I remember at the time I was a bit annoyed with him . But when I watched it . I felt very emotional but glad as well . The same as his old work diarys . I would go on at him to get rid of. Glad he took no notice of me . I now still have them with his writing in . Only numbers and things . Nothing interesting . But it’s his writing . Things we do and keep just to find a bit comfort . Heartbreaking . Xtake carex
I do have a few things with his writing on, you are right these are precious I would never part with them.
I often joked he should have been a doctor - his writing was illegible!
Hi that’s what my writing is like . I can’t even understand what I have wrote . Also my spelling terrible . Hubby said I had my own language . I think even when I talk my words are all over the place . I just would say to hubby it’s bacause I’m to intelligent . And he would say . Oh yeh keep telling yourself that . Xtake carex
Perhaps I am lucky as my husband was a singer in a band and I have recordings on CD’s but even after nearly three years it still cracks me up to hear his voice. Try as I might I can’t get through one song without having a meltdown. I have video’s but I daren’t watch them as I am sure it would send me quite mad!!!
My husband was a musician too and recorded songs for me but I can’t listen yet. Hopefully one day they will bring comfort.
My darling wife passed away suddenly during the first lock down in 2020. I came home and found her dead on the bedroom floor. It was really tough as I couldn’t see anyone and her funeral was only had only 9 people to attend due to the pandemic.
I have a song she recorded and even though I cry when playing it I have a permanent reminder of her voice. I’d like to say over two years later its easier But its not. I am surviving and have friends but I’m empty inside and find life so tough and pointless without my soul mate.
I’ve posted her singing before but for those who haven’t heard it ill post it again, she was my world.
What a truly beautiful voice xxx
Thank you, yes she had a wonderful voice.
I was with my husband for 45 years and from what I am reading and understanding from everyone it is the first thing you can’t recall I am finding it a little harder it’s only 4 months since he left my side
I have books with his hand written lists and such like and can’t destroy them or get rid of them
What a beautiful voice xx❤️
Hi , I so feel your pain but a while ago I came across some old voicemails on my phone which I had never thought about. Only day to day trivia.
Wonder if you have any ?
Sometimes they help, just hearing his voice , but other times they nearly destroy me so do be cautious.
This is my first post although I lost my husband over 18 months ago. The pain never ceases but the love & support from all your posts helps me through each day. Thank you.
Reading all the previous posts resonates with me my partner wrote all our business and personal people in the phone book his spelling used to make me laugh sometimes. When he was in hospital and I was not able to pick up the phone he would leave a message. I played them back months ago and you could hear this strong man getting weaker as messages went on in days. I have recorded them on my phone but unable to hear them again. Like most people on hear every morning I wake up and do not want to go through another lonely day we never had children that is so a big regret now. I would love it for I someone to say it gets easier and really believe it but I get worse everyday and am getting to be reclusive.
Personally, I feel things have begun to get easier, - but you have to be ready & willing to take a step forward into the unknown & unwanted.
I will always miss my husband & the life we had of 50 years together but I know I have to plod on, doing the best I can.
I know he’d be annoyed if I didn’t try.