I am seeking advice from anyone who has been in the same situation as i will be someday.
I havent spoken to my parents in over 5 years. Growing up i had a very strained relationship with my mother, she was incredibly controlling and has what i think is a personality disorder. And while my parents have been married for almost 30 years, i never had a strong connection with my father because he was always working, at one point 60-70 hours a week.
Around this time 5 years ago i began seeing a high school friend, i was living at home at the time so my mother was heavily involed in the relationship for about 3 months. To keep this post short, she didnt like him because he didnt suck up to her. She forbid me to see him if i wanted to continue living there. So i left, we started a life together and have been married almost 4 years.
I had to presue my mother legally to keep her away from us and her toxic feelings from affecting us. And unfortunatelly due to my mothers caniving ways i had to cut ties with most mutual family and friends to protect my privacy.
But lately i have been thinking about whats going to happen in the next few years as they become senior citizens. I am an only child, so there is no one else to make decisions for them.
At this point i honestly dont know if i even want to be envoled, even as little as transfering money from their accounts to fund nursing homes, hospice ect. What if im on a life insurance policy still? Will i be bonded to planning their funerals? Will it fall to me to take care of their things when they pass? Will i even be contacted by a medical personal to inform me of their passing?
Has anyone had a simular experience?