I have finally got to see my David, I barely slept last night as the mixture of dread and wanting to see David kept churning round my mind.
My sister went with me, I took the little things I had made for him and letter for him.
It was quite a shock to see him as the body lying there did not look like my David, it was David but strange, not my David as I knew him. I guess it is because his spirit has left and also he has been dead for over 2 weeks now :(.
I told him I loved him, I said night night, I placed the gifts I had brought in to his coffin and said my final goodbye, not to David but to his body.
We did not stay long, it was enough. I wept on the way home and when we got home but after I had calmed down and had a cuppa I felt strangely relieved that I had seen him and spoken to him.
I am glad I went to see him but at the same time I wish he had looked like him and didn’t really like seeing him but it has given me a little more closure, it will be his funeral next Wednesday.
Aww it’s good to say goodbye. When my Nick passed the hospital asked did we want to see him with the tubes all out and the machines away, I said yes. I wanted to see him one last time then. His 3 grown up kids couldn’t handle seeing him like that, but to me he looked at peace without all the tubes and he did look like my Nick but pale, he was still warm to touch, so I knew that would be the last time I would see him. His kids left as they said “it wasn’t their Dad” to me he WAS my Nick I sat with him for 2 hours after he passed until 2.30am I asked my friend would she sit with me and she came, I can still picture her head coming around the curtain., and she told me no rush to leave we can stay here all night. I am glad I did that, you have one last thing to do for your David now the funeral, and like me, you will do your best for him x
Thank you Jane, i did see David after he died till the funeral director came to take him maybe i should have made that my last time but it was very busy with workers and police etc. I will give him a good send off at his funeral x
Its so important to say goodbye. I saw Roger but not until 3 weeks after he died.
Then I visited every week until the funeral.
Although I cried and cried when I went to see him, I did find it comforting and felt close to him. I only actually saw him the first time. After that I just sat by his coffin talking to him.
Those days were precious to me.
We all have to do what feels right for us
I’m sure your Davids funeral will go well.
I will be thinking of you
Liz x