Beautiful 
Animals are so loyal
I heard an interesting quote this morning :-grief is the price we pay for love
Would like to hear anyone’s thoughts on that
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A price well worth paying. Even if I knew what grief was going to be like, I would choose love every time.
Can we ever imagine our lives without it.
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I wish I could have a dog to help with my grief, but I am still in work full time and I don’t think leaving a dog alone all day is fair. Still working full time has given me a purpose to get up in the morning, otherwise I would stay in bed all day. I love all the photos of the dogs.
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My love is eternal , my wife’s not gone , just relocated to heaven
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Im loving all the dogs,they’re such a comfort
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It’s my first Christmas alone, I’ve been very tempted to get a dog for company, I love the story of your wife getting you Daisy, what a lovely thing to do. Happy walking x
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@Gill9 having a dog is an immense comfort and I know our rescue dog has brought so much joy into our life and kept us sane,given us the chance to get out and people definitely chat more when you have a dog. The rescue dogs need that second chance, as do us all.
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Fantastic you have Christmas card for your wife hope you have a lovely Christmas
We are having a wonderful day
First Christmas without my Husband of 34 years who passed in June.
I hope you’re all managing to get through the day somehow and i hope we all find some peace in the day’s ahead.
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Hello
I lost my husband in Sept 24. In 2022 he was diagnosed bowel cancer and operation to cut out the cancer in August 2022. He was told he did not need chemo, as the cancer was contained. He was told he would have a follow up in a year. But no follow up appointment was sent to him. It played on my mind, and him said they are just behind. Early this year he said he said he did not have any energy and visited GP. They arranged for a poo test. We waited about 3 weeks, and as we had not heard we contacted GP, who said it had been filed away as it came back clear. If he still wanted an appointment to see a GP there was one in ten days time. My husband had kept a card with the McMillan nurses from 2022, he contacted them and was told his one year follow up had fallen through the net, and said they would arrange tests straight away. He had a coloscapy, that was clear. A MRI scan was arranged, again never received results and had to contact the McMillan nurse, who again said the results had fallen through the net and would make an urgent appointment for the results. He was told he had secondary cancer liver and lungs (July 2024). Given approx 2 to 2 1/2 years. He started chemo end July. He had three rounds of chemo, but the chemo begining startof Sept resulted in intestinal problems. 6th sept he became very unwell and I called an ambulance. He was in the resus ward until 10th Sept. I was told he had fluid and blood clot on the lungs due to an infection. He was moved to a ward late evening 10th. 12th Sept I was told they he had been put on different antibiotics and various other medication, and it all seemed positive. I left the hospital at 7:45pm. I got a call from the hospital at 9:40pm to say he was very poorly and I needed to get there ASAP. I relive that day / night over and over. I have a lot of unanswered questions, which I hope to sort out when hopefully in the new year my mind will be able to cope with it.
I just cannot wait for today to be over. I am finding this grieving process hard, and reading others messages has made me realise what I am going through is normal (if you can call it normal). I thank everyone who has put their message on this site.
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So sorry about your husband
Things will get better has time gos by
We had similar poor experiences and replaying it isn’t unusual, what ifs etc .It simply adds another layer to the bereavement to navigate. We hada call from Adult safeguarding services but they said they’d call but they failed me too,
I hope the rest of your day passes quickly, sending hugs.
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Well done @Chiselabbs . So are we. Walkies with the dogs (complete with tinsel). Pint at a local pub, then home for my lamb methi, fried rice and peshwari naan. Now on the last lap of the bottle of wine.
Enjoy the rest of the festive season!
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I fully understand how it makes you feel when the system seems to let you down , my wife was referred for additional medication that’s not a cure but would stabilise her condition hence give a few more precious days/months
She was referred in May , the phone call came the day after she died
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When do I get an invite 
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