I lost my mum on 1st December all her presents were bought and upon looking through her things she’d done the same
I don’t know how I’m going to get through it , I’m fine during the daytime keeping busy and it hits me like a truck at night
My partners parents retired to Portugal and he’s told them not to come anywhere near this year
Every year since I got with my partner she’d always take a photo of the two of us by the tree. She always did our lights and left us to do the rest it was a kind of tradition
To make it worse she always had parcels sent to ours in case she wasn’t home and some have arrived this evening I instantly went to ring her to say they were here
We can’t go away as we have elderly cats who have never been in a cattery and would think they’d been deserted
Thinking of you - I am a similar situation, my first Xmas without my mum and I am looking for something different to do as I can’t bear doing what we usually did together. I have no family or friend options. I’m looking at volunteering on Xmas day to get out and focused on others. Wishing you all the best.
It’s my first Christmas without my mum too, she died in May. I cried in the supermarket whilst buying Christmas cards, knowing I wasn’t getting one for her (I later told myself of course I can buy her a card if it helps me).
I am lucky to be going abroad this year with other close family. I’m not sure how I’d manage staying at home. Perhaps I would do some volunteering as Binky101 mentions.
It’s my first Christmas without my mum too. Will be her 5 month anniversary on Christmas Eve. It still feels like it’s a bad nightmare.
Everything makes me cry as I keep thinking mum would like this or that.
Have a lovely time , we’ve not had the funeral yet due to post mortem so once that’s done it would have been her birthday then my birthday seems to be never ending memories
It’s just gone 8 weeks since my mum died, I thought I was turning a corner since I hadn’t cried for a week or so, and last night I found a txt thread between her and myself, the last message was the morning before she passed, I was reading though the messages and the tears bounced, I felt my heart break into a million pieces again, I can’t bring myself to delete her number out of my phone, and the messages are locked so they can’t be accidentally deleted, I’m dreading the next few days, this was always her favourite time of year
Ditto here - 1st Christmas without my Mum. My emotions are all over the place - great sadness and anger that she isn’t here. Went to lay flowers at the crem - pink roses with some Christmas foliage. I hope she would have liked them. I am attempting my Mum’s bread sauce recipe for the 1st time she always made that and the stuffing.
Sorry for your loss
We lost our mom on the 5th of December 2024 heartbreaking isn’t the word for how we are feeling she was blind & deaf but still mobile,we miss her so much I’m back at work but feel I’ve gone back too soon and am struggling to cope with people I work with asking how I am and welcoming me back but on another way it’s a good distraction for me,I have my moments of being very overwhelmed and I’m struggling to keep it all together and I know I need to grieve properly
I tried to go back 2 weeks after my mum passed but I made it through one day and had to be off another 2 weeks, I couldn’t cope, I’m in a customer facing role and all my tradies had. Wen told why I was off, so when I went back they were all wanting to comfort me and it got too much, my company is fantastic though and have me 4 weeks paid bereavement leave