Hello everyone, I just wonder if anyone feels like me, I lost my husband 3 months ago, but he was in hospital for 3 months before. I now feel after 6 months I am used to being on my own but I do miss him terribly every day. Had a week away with my son and his partner it was lovely but the constant company was wearying. I am spending 6 days with my brother and sister in law and her family over Christmas but staying apart . I will actually be glad when it is January I went to my holiday home which is a business and had to decorate for Christmas at home I wont I sort of feel like 2 people at the moment. The businesswoman carrying on and then the total wreck. I also feel incredibly guilty that I am able to do this. Sorry if I ramble but this site is full of people like me. People say I am doing really well but I wont let them see my down bits. The one thing is I do feel for me personally it will get better I am able to talk about our life not in a sad way but a positive way. However roll on January 2nd!
Hi Heather56,
I am the opposite. I hate being on my own. I hate the quietness and the loneliness. I miss my husband’s company so much. I wake up every day and just don’t see the point to anything anymore. My life has changed so much and it will not improve as I am getting older. Once again sorry for appearing negative but what I can say is I do know myself and I can be quite pragmatic.x
Your not alone Heather. I too hate being alone so much so that my brother moved in with me. I don’t know where I would be if he hadn’t. It’s another person in the house. He makes me feel less alone. We all have to support each other because unless ppl experience this have no idea. One minute I feel just about able to cope and the next I’m in pieces. The panic and anxiety is dreadful x
Hi. I lost my husband just over 3 weeks ago. I hate being on my own - always have done. I am lucky in that I have 3 adult children who keep in constant contact and one or other visit everyday. It helps but I miss my husband so so much. We were so happy and content in our little world with our routines. It’s horrendous without him. I’m so sorry that we are all feeling so bad. I wish I could wave a magic wand for us all at least to get us over Christmas. Take care of yourselves and keep reading and posting xx.
Same here ,hate this life now. Michael x
Good to hear from you Mickeyboy x
Hi Nel thank you and same to you,hope you are staying strong and getting through this terrible thing that we have all been through. Much love Michael x
Hello my friend we are all in the same boat and on the same horrendous journey.We try to get through it as best we can ,it is very hard day after day to keep going,I have often wondered why am I still here without my beloved wife Judith. Much love Michael x
Hi. Almost 15 months without my reason for living. Why are we still here .I still ask my husband every night to come and get me . I think now he is unable too. I’m sure he would hate to see me in this torture every day . It’s getting harder as well . Time heals. Load of rubbish . Sending love and hugs to all .xtake carex
I agree will be glad to see it over decided to stay on my own Christmas Day family coming on Boxing Day but Christmas will never be the same in later years we always spent it just the two of us will face it when it comes .
I feel so sad this Christmas thinking back to last year when we had no idea that Paul was unwell and would die at the end of May. I want to hide away and cry. It will never be the same again without my lovely husband of 48 years. It is so hard to bear. I just never knew anyone could hurt so very much.
Sending love and best wishes to all those who have lost someone recently or some while ago. xx
Hi Chris,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband Paul. My husband died in February and I still can’t believe it’s happened. The pain is unbearable. Can you not sleep either? Sending a hug.X
Hi I know how you feel my husband passed only Four weeks ago I keep strong face on for the family so they don’t worry about me they have been really good and very supportive put the grieving Takes it’s toll on me when I’m alone this Christmas will be our first I’m not sure how I’m going to get through it and like you I’m looking forward to January it will be a fresh start and I will try to build a life as I’m a very positive person my husband was five years with cancer so I would not want him to be here suffering anymore than he was thinking of that keeps me going
Hi we are all your friends on here ,you can talk to us anytime. Michael x
Thank you how do you all get through the day the evenings and nights are not to bad for me but the days are very hard
Hello my friend ,getting through the days and nights is going to be difficult for the rest of our lives.I go to bed around 6pm and watch tv snuggled in the warm until sleep comes if I am lucky.The days well I try to do some jobs around the house and garden have lunch watch tv until evening meal about 5pm ,this is my routine ,boring but it works for me now that Judith has gone.14 months of grief and pain and that will never change. Much love Michael xx