My mum died in April. Since my dad died it’s just been me and mum. I’m absolutely dreading it. But what is really upsetting me is that neither her brother or sister have invited me to join them, or even asked what I will be doing, and they have sent ‘normal’ Christmas cards wishing me a merry one. So thoughtless. I feel so alone and unwanted. My mum would be so upset and I feel like they don’t care about either of us.
Sorry to moan, I just needed to write this somewhere.
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@Goshinka
Sorry to hear this. It is really hard but grief is very different for people that didn’t live with or share all the time their life with the person that passed away. For them their life can go on almost as normal, so they don’t understand. They may not be able to imagine how it is for you so can’t do empathy. I know what you mean about the cards it just feels so insensitive.
You did the right thing sharing your feelings,its so very hard with your grief of your mum passing,you/we feel lost and alone,i feel the same after lossing my husband,we get so use to having them around and when theyre not there its heart breaking.people just carry on and say time it takes time.
I hope it never happens to them.
There’ll never be enough time.
Will there.
Xmas day will be his birthday.and first xmas in my life ive been on my own,and our first xmas without them.so for me, xmas is cancelled,
Ill be thinking of you goshinka.
And any one else whos missing someone in heaven this year.
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So sorry to hear about your husband and having his birthday at the same time 
wishing you a peaceful Christmas x