My husband died only 2 days ago so its very raw. He had Parkinson’s and just recently the associated dementia but he still knew me. He was in care as he lost mobility and I could no longer care for him. He was deteriorating but his death was very sudden in the end and I was with him. I managed to tell him I loved him just before he passed, which I feel sure he heard, which is a great comfort. The grief will never go away and I have no other family. I feel that I want to die too.**

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Dear @IanWilson

Welcome to the Community. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband.

You are in the very early stages of grief and it will be a roller coaster ride of emotions with good days and bad days. Sue Ryder has a launched helpful Grief Guide to help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief. When you are ready, take a look as it has useful information.

For someone to talk to there is the Samaritans who you can call free on 116 123 and is a confidential service.

You have mentioned you have no other family, I have included a link to
Cruse Bereavement who have have advice on how to cope with the Loneliness of bereavement. It would be worth having a read to see how it can help you.

If you type in the search bar Loneliness you can connect with members here who have experienced and have been in the same position as yourself.

I do hope the above will be of help to you. If you do need further information please email

Please continue to reach out and take care of yourself.


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@IanWilson I am so sorry. They say that hearing is the last thing to go so take comfort he would have heard you. It is never easy watching a loved one suffer with any illness. Members on this group can relate to how you are feeling in these early days. It really is a rollercoaster of emotions and it is not easy knowing how to deal with it. Although you have no other family members I really hope you have friends to support you through your grief. Thinking of you and sending you a hug. x

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I am so sorry for your loss of your husband
Just take every day as it comes
You are going through hell right now
You will get through this
We are all here to help and support you
Whatever you need

Sending my love

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We’re your family now.



@IanWilson,so sorry for your loss.It is very early days for you.I am sure he would of heard you towards the end ,they say that the hearing is the last thing to go.
I was with my husband towards the end so pleased I was. It was a privilege to be there.
You need to look after your self now sleep eat well .Hugs to you xxx

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I feel for you so deeply. I’m glad that you were with him and able to tell him again that you loved him. There aren’t really any words that can make it easier just now but please know that people in this community care about you and always will x

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Thank you. I know that my late husband loved me. About 6 months ago, before the dementia took over, he said one day “No matter what happens now you know that I love you”. I think he had some insight into what was happening to him.


How wonderful he was able to tell you that. Hold what he said close, it’ll help x

Yes I’m holding on to that, he’s in my heart always x

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I still miss him every minute of every day, and will till the day I die x

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I hear you. I cry all the time. I try to tell myself I was lucky to have loved and to have ben loved for 42 wonderful years by such a beautiful clever woman.

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