I collected Jane’s ashes today and brought her home where she belongs. Before i went to collect her i was very anxious not knowing what to feel and that anxiousness has carried on.
Im left with a feeling of emptyness and nothingness cant really explain a bit like a rabbit caught in the headlights.
I really dont know how else to explain it 
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Dear Narna,
One of our son’s collected my husbands ashes from the Funeral Director and brought them to our home we had shared since we were married in the 1960’s.
I felt an overwhelming sense of peace come over me, he was home again. He had been in the hospital mortuary for over a week as it was the bank holiday after he died, then he was taken to the chapel of rest, then of course it was his funeral, it seemed as though I had been without him for such a long time.
He is where he belongs, in the home he loved for so many years and as far as I am concerned, he is still with me and will be until it is my time to go, then our ashes will be scattered together.
Sheila.x
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Hi Lonely thats sort of the way im feeling im so glad to have her back home at last as she has been gone since 9th feb, what with the coroner and the funeral director it was beginning to feel like she wasnt coming back.
I know it sounds weird but i do get a warm comfort from giving the urn a hug 
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Dear Narna,
I know exactly what you mean, as long as my Peter’s ashes are in our home, so is he. I say goodnight to him every night and good morning every morning, if I go out I say I won’t be long and when I get home, I say I am home. May sound silly, but it feels as though he is here with me and not to talk to him would be wrong. Also, there are fresh cut flowers in a vase next to him all the time, he loved flowers.
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I to have my husbands ashes at home and i always say good night love you and good morning to him like you say it feels like he is still with me i also tell him about what kind of day i have had
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Dear sue11,
All my husband has been hearing this week is how fed up I am of the rain and wind as I hate going out when it is doing both.
xx
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I couldnt wait to bring Bri home after almost 6 weeks, he had to have a PM. I felt such peace, i lit a candle, and put some flowers in a vase next to his ashes, and when i looked outside there was a double rainbow. Xx
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its not silly. i got a beautiful urn its jupiter as Bri loved the planets. i talk to him all the time. I have a photo on a key ring of us both. By the front door and I say goodbye see you later love you be good every time I go out. It’s a comfort there’s nothing wrong with feeling like that.
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made me smile. ive been saying the same
Dear nett,
I too have a double sided key ring of both of us, one side is when we married and the other side was taken just before he became ill. In fact, at Peter’s funeral, where they always stand a photo of the person who has died, the photo was one of us both, I asked our sons why they had not used the photo of just their dad and they said, “mum, you were always together side by side and it is fitting that the photo should show you both together on dad’s last day with us”. xx
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I also have my husbands ashes at home with me. He passed away 12 December 2021, as it was sudden we had to have a post mortem so werent able to have his funeral till the following February then got his ashes home 2 weeks later. I had some put in a ring for me so wherever i go he is with me, my daughter has a necklace with some in and my three sons have his thumb print on a pair of cufflinks each. He will stay with me till its my time then we will be together again
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Hello, I have my husband’s ashes at home too. They are in the box the funeral home have me, and in a cupboard in the side board in our front room, which is also right by the front door. (Our front door opens straight into our front room)
I love having him here, home was his favourite place in the whole world, so why would I want him to be anywhere else.
I say good morning every morning, and everytime I leave the house I be sng the top of the cupboard and day “see you soon darling” and when i come home I again tap the cupboard and say 'im home darling"
And last thing at night when I check door is locked , I ask him to look after me over night.
I truly feel like he is with me in our home. And I’m putting it in my will that I want our ashes put together we hen I go.
I really enjoyed reading these posts from you all, doing and dealing with our loved ones ashes in the same way.
Love and hugs to you all 
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thats exactly what i do. got a lovely urn off etsy of the planet Saturn (we loved looking at stars and planets) i say morning open the blinds chat away . i have our picture on key ring as i go out door tell him be back soon. Chat when i get back and when I put the television on, I moan like I used to and involve him in the conversation it’s like being on Gogglebox x I miss him every day and every night, but have been out more lately and did some voluntary work today with people living with dementia and I saw an old friend in town so we is chatting over an hour going to meet up for coffee so that’s nice. Life is strange without the soulmates and loves of our lives but for them we live and carry on. They’ve just gone on a holiday and one day we will be by the sea with them.
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Thank you so much for your reply and understanding.
It’s truly so comforting to read that others do similar things , and get my ways of dealing with the life we have been left with.
I too try to carry on , and I do , but the sadness, loneliness and missing are with me all the time.
Big hugs
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Love your thoughts about they’ve just gone on holiday, and we will soon be by the sea with them.
Thank you so much 
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Yes, i love this too. Sometimes i do feel like he is on one really big holiday.
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Dear nett,
After my husbands cremation eight years ago, the undertaker brought me my husbands ashes (they are still at home with me) and they were in an urn which was in a Royal Blue velvet bag with a draw string tassel. I wish I had had the foresight to pick an urn I wanted but I never thought of it as I was in a world of my own. Now, even if I did buy a special urn, I could not bring myself to empty the ashes in the existing urn into another one as it would mean disturbing my husband.
bless you 
the undertaker did mine when he collected them. i also have some in a charm 
if you feel strong enough go back to the undertaker to put them in a nice urn or if tge back is pretty go on etsy and find a lovely box have it engraved and pop
the bag in the box
Dear nett,
The dark blue velvet bag with a drawstring tassel is lovely but like I said, I would have loved to have chosen it myself. What I have done is bought a silver chain with a silver pendant that says, ‘Together in life together in death’ with angels wings engraved on it and I hung around the neck of the urn. It sits in a corner display cabinet overlooking our front room, that is where my husband always sat in the chair in front of the cabinet. I put his urn there so he can still look out of the window.
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thats lovely xx i have an angel wing on Bria
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