Since my husband died I have been comfort eating. I want to go back to being sensible but I don’t seem to have the will power.
Anyone else the same?
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I have been pigging out on sweets and ice cream and crisps lol
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Certainly do! I have allowed it to get a bit out of hand, it really started when I broke my leg in December last year and through inactivity I put on almost half a stone, when I lost my wife in March my leg was forced into more action than it was really expecting to do but my eating habits have been pretty rubbish, I am having to learn to cook and not finding it easy and to be honest I am not eating proper meals or even that much so I have now lost a stone (which I need to do) even though what I eat most of is comfort food, particularly sweet stuff, made flapjacks today, all that butter, syrup and sugar! however I have got to get a grip on things or as my appetite improves the weight will pile on again but as you say, it’s having the will power.
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I have the same problem. When I am down, I indulge in ice cream—whoops, the whole tub is gone. But I try to cut down on other unhealthy food and reduce the takeaways. The worst thing is that I do not want to leave the house, which is not good for my health, but I do not enjoy walks alone. Significantly, the area is not very nice; everywhere, there are broken bottles, food containers, etc. Not to mention the uneven and damaged walkways and the potholes. Sending hugs and love.
@Enorac
I’ve gained 3 stone since January… on Sunday, I made steps to take back control of my eating.
I feel uncomfortable and frumpy like this and everything is much harder to do…
So, no more late night cheese based snacks, no eating because I’m bored and lonely and back to normal sized portions, menu plans and shopping lists.
This is part of my self-care!
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Well done! apart from comfort eating and taking charge over it, I have found (maybe obviously) “that taking charge” has been really helpful, I lost my wife in March and gradually I have tried to “take charge” the first was our garden, things like some routine in doing the washing, housework, getting up in the morning, I still deal with a small number of customers 3 days a week, even shopping, it is just getting back to a routine, whatever it was, that we probably all had prior to our loss, I found I had to push myself out of the self inflicted comfort zone (and it really isn’t that comfortable) of doing nothing accept watching the telly, you don’t really watch the telly but gives you time to let your thoughts run wild, it’s really hard at first as you have no will power, no inclination, no enthusiasm etc especially in the early weeks/months, yes you relapse but if you can keep up a little pressure you do feel better for it, at least I do!
Take care.
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Yes taking charge is a good way to put it.
Maybe that should be the headline subject
Trouble is easier said than done.
Small steps though than trying for boom and bust
Sleep if not sorted makes it harder so chicken and eggs and catch 22.
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I lost weight for a few weeks after my wife died,
I have taken control of all the important things,I have put a little weight back on now and the last thing I am going to do is restrict what I consume,I continue to eat the foods I enjoy and more recently cook,but ile be damned if I have to watch my waistline,
We have enough forced battles to fight without looking for others.
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@swift
I’ve reached the point where I need to take charge. I’ve been living in chaos for the past nine months, which is completely understandable, and it’s a long old slog which is far from over, but I can’t keep living like this.
We didn’t live in this chaos, everything was ordered! I need to get back to that somehow, especially as there is twice as much to do. So… I started to make my plans on Sunday, and began to put them into place. Today, I asked to reduce my hours, so that’s another thing ticked off.
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I am the opposite. I have gone down two dress sizes in the three months since he died. It’s partly because I am doing twice as much work now, gardening, cleaning, etc. But mostly because I don’t get hungry. I can’t bear to cook all the things he loved. I always cooked everything from scratch, now I often don’t have the time or inclination. I try to make healthy meals for my daughter, but I have still got that lump in my chest where my heart used to be, and food just won’t go past it.
I bought myself a large bar of my favourite chocolate, but even that doesn’t taste the same.
Xx
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Well taking charge is trying to control myself and eat sensibly which some days better than others. It is trying to keep on top of things like the washing or washing up, the bills, my personal things like hair, suitable clothing and home.
I still struggle even getting the rubbish into the right place.
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