Hello. Lost my ma last week. She was over 100. I worried about her dying since she was in her 80s. My sister and I used to think she’d outlast us oldies in our 70s but it was not to be. I used to visit her 3 afternoons a week, talking about everything I was doing, music, politics, poetry, etc. I grew very close in a way I hadn’t in the past. I always treated time with her as special, literally as if that day would be the last one ever, but despite that I’d slipped into a feeling she was kind of ‘immortal’ . In my turmoil I’m alternating between thinking I saw her too much, or didn’t see her as much as I could, or took her out in the car enough. People are kind and supportive & mean well, but the comment “it was a good age” sort of implies it’s ok for her to die at 100+. She was compos mentis probably until about 2 wks ago when she became v. tired and was sleeping a lot. I’ve had some great support from the Sams. And I know it’s early days. And and and…………
2 Likes
Hi clouds nobody wants to die, and when someone does, those who loved them are left to suffer, whatever the age. Nobody knows how much someone meant to another, or how painful their lose is. I met my wife at eighteen, and we were married for forty years and the pain of losing her has been unbearable. Which is indifferent to time. Had she lived to a hundred, would the pain of her death be less? I doubt it. Today, I would be happy for another day, or another month, or another year, but as soon as the time was up I would once again be devastated. Because the separation from someone you love is painful.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
