coming to terms with losing someone dear

I lost my son in law early this year and can not come to terms with it and am grieving for my daughter and children. I also am grieving for my husband’s diagnosis of dementia and scared of how I will be coping with it in future and of being lonely.

I am feeling quite devastated and have not felt like being myself and have no motivation to start the day. Very worried I will not ever feel the same again. I do try and see people as much as I can, but feel I am living in a dream and not really enjoying things as I used to.


Hello @Vanjaarsveld ,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your son-in-law that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

You might also want to take a look at the Dementia Talking Point. Dementia Talking Point is a helpful online community where anyone who is affected by dementia can receive valuable support. It’s free and open 24 hours a day.

Take good care,


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Hi, sorry for the grief that has prompted your post. When my ex husband died ten years ago I felt devastated for our sons because they lost their father. I was unbelievably sad on their behalf as well as grieving myself for the man that I had loved and lost. Grief brings so many emotions and it can be a struggle to manage them and carry on with life. As long as you are loving and supportive to your daughter you’ll be able to move forwards, managing the grief together. There’s no timeline so this is a long term situation. I’m so sorry you have the added grief of your husband’s diagnosis. I hope there’s some support available to you. Have a look at the resources available online, there’s a lot of helpful information. Take care, best wishes xx

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