I lost my father when I was 18 to cancer. and my mum at 35. I was traumatised by the loss of my father to the extent that I did not deal with it at all, until I had a breakdown a year ago. I can not get my head around what happened to my dad. I am dealing with this in therapy but it has triggered insomnia and I miss my mum terribly. I’d love to hear from people who have had similar experiences – so I know I am not alone
Hello @DamonB,
Thank you for bravely reaching out and for sharing openly with us here. I’m so sorry to read about the loss of both of your parents. Please know you are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category, but there you will find lots of other members sharing their experiences of living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support - in the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
The NHS every mind matters website also provides some information about and support for sleep problems and insomnia which might be useful.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you.
Take good care and keep reaching out,
Megan
Unfortunately I have no answers on how to deal with your grief.
My wife of almost 48 years passed away in April and I’m trying to make sense of the horrific grief I’m in,but that’s another story.
Parents,well I was 17 when my dad died. A massive thing to cope with at that age. Obviously my mum was in bits and I didn’t know how to help her. Losing my dad was difficult for me. All those teenage years rebelling against my parents,I’m sure we all did it. Just coming through that and wanting to actually talk to him about his RAF career and learn things from him,the chance had gone.
Two years later my Mum passed away. 19 years old,no parents. Of course it all goes around and around in your head and it’s upsetting. That was over 50 years ago but of course I’ve always missed them. All I can hope for is that would have been proud of how they brought me up and proud of my wife and children who they never got to see.
In my case,time has eased the hurt and hopefully will for you too.
They will always be close at hand in your heart and head,just talk to them,out loud if you want.
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