I am confused feel like I have been hit in the heart and body by a combine harvester. I am 46,I lost my mum in April 2017 and my Dad in October 2019, and it’s just all caught up with me…
I really thought I had done all the grief work but nope 
that pain was nothing compared until tonight.
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I’m so sorry about your mum and dad, @Marie1978. I just wanted to give your thread a “bump” - I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support.
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Hi @Marie1978 ,
I’m sorry about your Mum and Dad, and that the grief has come back. I wonder what might have provoked it at this point? It’s curious - in my experience it can be something as innocuous as a smell, a fleeting sight or sound of something - something so small that seems to plunge us back. I’m beginning to feel that grief is like a scar, doesn’t really go anywhere, it might fade, but we get distracted and learn to live alongside it and somehow becomes bearable over time. Good that you’re speaking about it here. Be kind to yourself.
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I feel as I have read your message my good friend has been seriously ill in hospital where my mum died and it’s coming up to the anniversary of my dad’s passing.
Although sadly my friend has also passed over today💔 I cried but I just feel numb x
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Oh Marie I’m so sorry. No wonder at all that you’re feeling so much - and yet also numb. So much for you to take in. You may find you go in and out of pain and numbness and that’s ok. There’s an image you’ll find through Google which I found helpful called whirlpool of grief.
Take time for yourself where you can. All the basic needs - rest/sleep when you’re tired, eat and drink when hungry and thirsty. Probably sounds very simple, but this kind of holding, keeping the basic engine of your life going will hold you through this very painful time. x