I lost the love of my life on monday due to the house been a council one in his name i have gone to a friend’s his daughter and partner who lived with us are clearing the house already i just feel like there disrespect of his memory but then on the other hand i feel a slight relief which feels wrong for the last year i have worked 13 hour shifts as well as caring for him he was on permanent oxygen and could not walk far my emotions are all ovet the place and i just feel like a part of me is missing how do people do this
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Hello @Carrie5 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you feel like a part of you are missing. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Carrie, I am so very sorry that you lost your partner, it is just horrid. I am not quite sure of what a council house may be, but his daughter and her partner lived with the 2 of you and are now clearing your things and his out of the house?
Yes, it is okay that you feel relieved of the burden of clearing out the house but if they are getting rid of your things, I believe that is called theft. Perhaps you need to go there with boxes and tape and get your things. It is rude, isn’t it?
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Carrie I am so sorry for your loss and what has happened since, that is brutal to treat you like that when you looked after your partner even while you worked and now to leave you homeless, being a council house and if it was in your partner’s name surely it does not mean that they are now entitled to that house or to be the ones who clear it all out and not involve you.
I hope you get comfort from joining this forum, everyone helps in their own way, it has helped me greatly over months xxx
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So sorry for your loss and such awful situation you are in…it’s the last thing you need on top of trying to grieve the loss of your beloved.
Sending love and hugs 
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