A year and a half ago, our mam passed. 86.
We still have our dad, 87.
Over the past year and a half I feel like my connection with the rest of my family, other than our dad, has slowly changed. I don’t feel like I’m part of that family unit anymore.
I’ve distanced myself in most, if not close to every way.
I see, and spend time with our dad alone or with my immediate family, husband and kids.
I just don’t feel like I fit in with my brother and sisters anymore.
Hello @Familyforever,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mam that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Suzy
Hi @Familyforever,
I know what you mean, I haven’t kept in touch with my relatives either, it’s just not the same without mom. I live with my dad, but we’re not close.
When a parent passes, it changes everything, to me my mom was my safety net, because I’m special needs she was usually very overprotective of me, without her, it feels like walking a tightrope with no safety net, there’s no-one there to catch me if I fall, I guess for most people it makes them more aware of their surviving parent.
For me, my uncle (on my mom’s side) passed in July, this felt like loosing my last real family connection to my mom, everyone else has just become names on a Christmas card list, (not that there’s many left,) it’s understandable to feel separate, grieving for a much loved parent can be tough, & maybe need space to take in everything that has happened, & what it means to you, maybe see how you feel in time. Sending hugs of support.