My spouse passed away almost 11 months ago. He was a good man and wonderful father. The age difference between us was 11 years. His death was very sudden with no warning. 3 breaths and he was gone. The heart doctor has told him to come back in a year that he was doing great. You never know when God will call you home. I had a very hard time with his death until I realized I was still trying to please him and make him happy. I didn’t realize how controlling over me he was. After I made it past that grief stage now another one hits. He left no Will so all the land he had bought is in my name, our sons and my 3 stepsons. Tennessee had changed the laws. Now if I make any decisions on anything I have to consult the other 5. I feel like I’m being controlled by him plus everyone else. Please don’t get me wrong, I love my husband just not his ways. It took him dying to see how my life has been the past 24 years. We were together for 28, married 26 and when our 1st child was born the controlling started. How do you work thru all this plus the grieving that never lets up?
So sorry you are having to cope with all this. Grief is a journey and we have so many thoughts everything has changed. My husband of 51 years passed away suddenly of a heart attack so warning. He didn’t leave a will which made it difficult our daughters did most of the legal stuff and arranged funeral. We didn’t know what he wanted but I believe we did him proud. My thoughts are with you. Kind regards
I’m so sorry for your loss. I spent 2 months doing all the legal stuff. I stayed busy constantly. I’m sure your husband was proud of the arrangements for him. We ended up with a country theme from fish to tractors. His casket was barnwood. I’ve always said he got the log cabin we never got to build. Thank you for your kind words. You’re in my thoughts also. My heart breaks for anyone that’s lost a spouse. Take care