Hi all. Felt I needed to share my story as it is so similar to what I am reading.
My mum passed away New Year’s Day 2020 at only 73 years old.
I remember having a holiday in Great Yarmouth, she had a cold and then was told she had pleurisy. I think she must have been around 45.
After that, over a number of years her breathing got worse and she needed steroids and antibiotics to fight numerous infections.
In 2012 she was hospitalised, she must have been around 65. After that she very gradually got worse with more period in hospital, when she was about 69 she started to get serious back pain, doctors put it down to osteoporosis, then she needed oxygen 20 hours a day which was not helped with her being a CO2 retainer so everything was fighting against the other.
It was awful to watch, knowing there was nothing I could do.
I knew stairs were a problem so we decided to look for a bungalow, intensional was mum and dad would move in with me. We eventually found and bought a bungalow. We all moved in together, things were good then three months after moving in, New Year’s Eve 2019, mum could not breath, called an ambulance, took them over an hour to get here, mum was taken to hospital, dad went in the ambulance, I followed. Got to the hospital, mum was not awake, couple of hours later she was gone. How can that happen so quickly.
We never really understood how poorly mum was, we sort of got used to it and just assumed, go in hospital, antibiotics and then back out. No one explained to us what was really happening.
I am 46, single. Luckily my dad is in good health. Lead up to Christmas is so hard. Your stories just made so much sense to me and I can so relate to them. It is so difficult.