Basic facts: I am male, 51 and was married for 28 wonderful years. We have 5 children, daughter and two sons in their early 20’s with lives away from home. 21 yr old son, back between Uni courses and 16 year old son who had to do his GCSEs right after mums death.
My wife was my best friend as well as my business partner and Finance Director. She was diagnosed with Breast cancer 1st July 2016. Treatment went OK. However, post radiotherapy, she was admitted to hospital, diagnosed terminal on Thursday afternoon and passed away that Saturday morning (20th May 2017). So we held a large family and friends funeral. Whole family and community came together. A good send off and burial in the local cemetery (5 mins walk away from home).
Business dealings have been on hold since she became ill. That chapter of life is over. I am too old to risk everything again and I wont do it alone anyway). I now lecture @ a Uni part time (started as Debbie became ill) and do some business consulting. Work is hectic, but fine. It is as I like it. Oh, Im also studying part time for a PhD. For fun I sail a 1960’s wooden yacht - my 45th birthday present from my wife. So all in all plenty to do.
All at home appear to be doing OK. We have formed a “new normality”and we rub alone OK. We cannot control the situation but we can control our response to it. Cleaner has been engaged. Sainsbury’s deliver the food, we take tuns to cook. Morale is mostly fine with the occasional mood and cry. However, evenings are lonely but bearable. But you know, its actually OK. We hate she died, we don’t like being left and we feel sad about our loss. But life does go on.
So my questions are simple: Is there a big shock waiting round the corner? What are we missing? Are we headed for future trouble? Or we we OK? What does your experience tell you about us?