I lost my best friend and soulmate March 2024. He had a heart attack in the early evening after a usual happy day together. He was gone in half an hour of speaking to me. I can’t bear being without him, he was everything to me. He was the kindest and happiest person I ever knew and he made me so happy. Now I have to live without his happiness and love. Life is over and empty.
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Meg, I am sorry that you are going through the horrible experience for the second time. I am on my first time, I lost my Darling wife of 52 years in April 2024. and I do understand how you feel, as I have been on the same journey. I try and remember the happy times and be glad that we had them. About a week after my wife’s funeral a nice kind person told me to “Man Up” Just how. It takes time to be able to manage your feelings and get things under control. No I do not mean that I am over the loss, I will never stop missing my Elizabeth and I will always love her. But I am starting to be able to manage the grief and starting to manage the living alone, ok I have radio 4 on all the time, even when I am out so the house is not so quiet and empty sounding when I get in. I am lucky there is a bereavement cafe in my village that meets once a month , and this site I have helpful. I also belong to a book club, there are other things going on in the village that gets me some social interaction that helps. Enough of a ramble from me. These feeling seem to come in waves and I hope you have an upturn soon. Sending you a big hug like from your brother.
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Meg10 I am sorry to hear of your loss.
I know that the grief journey is different for each of us, but I totally understand when you write of losing your best friend and soulmate.
I lost my wonderful partner Dave when he died suddenly 12 weeks ago. Our last conversation was in the morning, planning to meet up lunchtime, but sadly that meeting never happened. I am so grateful for the 10 happy years we had together, but of course we had planned to spend the rest of our lives together.
Rob05 I wouldn’t be responsible for my actions if anybody told me to ‘man up’ or ‘woman up’ for that matter. That person must be lucky enough to have never sufferered a heartbreaking loss 
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Thank you Rob5 and Gerbilmad, it’s so good to connect with people who truly understand loss.
My partner and I were together for 21 years and it seemed no time at all, it went by so quickly. The love we shared will always be there.
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Meg10
I totally agree with “The love we shared will always be there” I feel the same about my Elizabeth.
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