I lost my grandad 6 weeks ago and yesterday I lost my godmum- I’m still crying every day since my grandad passed and now I’m not sure how I’ll cope loosing them both. 
I’m so sorry for your losses, @Judders - that is a lot to cope with in such a short space of time. I’m just giving your thread a bump - I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support 
Awww thankyou so much for your kind words 
Hi. Im new here. I lost my dad last June. And just lost my nan last month. I’ve kept busy ans been dealing with it ok but this week im not myself. Something is off. Im very forgetful too. Wondering if grief can cause this?
Sorry to hear of your losses - I think it’s so much harder when there’s two to grieve. I think grief can hit us at any time & I understand how you’re feeling , this week I’ve been feeling very numb. I think it can cause it completely. It can take a very long time and some times I don’t know what to feel and some days I feel. I think it can make us feel some very strange feelings x
Yeah. I’m just wondering if its grief or if im just low on energy. Hard to tell. Im in bed until 12pm, I wake up so tired.
It could be either - low energy can be caused from grieving , I hardly have energy at the moment and feel so drained! It’s a difficult time to go through and there’s no time limit!
So hard isn’t it. Feel so stupid feeling this way. Cant even explain it to my husband. He has no idea how to help.
Never feel stupid - it’s very hard to deal with. Especially loosing two people. I was so close to my grandad and godmum and they passed 6 weeks apart. I also feel crazy feeling the way I do but I guess it’s grieving. I know what you mean I can’t speak to my partner as he doesn’t know how to deal with it. That’s why I came on here in the hope others understand my crazy feelings x
Yeah, ive just opened up to him whilst in work through text. Cause i cant talk face to face as I’ll cry and that will make me feel even more stupid. Feeling terrible guilt that im staying in bed until 12 whilst my husband does the school run and house work. But i just have no energy at the moment. I just want to cry all the time. Ive been here before and i went on anti depressants but i dont want to go back down that road.
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Well done for opening up, this is a big step! Never feel stupid for your feeling. I repeat hope your husband gives you the support you need. Seems he gives you some at the moment with helping with school run etc that’s great! Don’t feel guilty for feeling how you feel- as I said grieving has no time limit and it will and can hit us at any time. I’m still early in and I’m already worried when it’s gunna hit me randomly and I’ve got to get through all the firsts yet! I know tablets aren’t what you want, just see how you feel. It might not seem it now but you can do this 
Thank you, appreciate your kind words. May i share this link with you, my friend passed it to me, i haven’t used it yet as theyre only available mon-fri. Speak to a professional about grief - How to get free professional grief support online
Maybe speaking to a stranger theough chat instead of phone will be easier.
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Hi judders, just wanted to offer my condolences. I’ve found it being a real struggle with my losses which were my dad and my mum 6 months apart with my youngest sister being 14 years old. We just don’t know how to cope that I am always arguing with people which doesn’t help. Trying and remember the good times, they always time heals but it’s never does it just makes it less harder❤️ look after yourself cause that’s always number 1 in a situation like this!
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Your are more than welcome !
And that’s lovely thankyou so much 
I will look into that.
Take care & reach out again at any time.
X
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Thankyou so much, really appreciate your kind words! Sorry for your losses too, that can’t of been easy! It’s so hard isn’t it it’s the feeling of feeling numb, not sure where to turn etc, the constant crying. Life can be so cruel! Wow 14 years old? That’s crazy, bet you done amazing I’m also a mum too so quite hard to grieve I think as always busy with the kids , sometimes in a good way. Thankyou I am absolutely trying to look out for me
Yeah she is only 14, and she already struggling that badly she’s now started to self harm and get bullied at school and I don’t know what to do, cause I’m so lost with everything else and not sure on how to deal with it. I’d rather let my sister grieve first before I do. And good I’m glad your looking after yourself
Thankyou and I’m so sorry she is going through it. You must feel so stuck! People are so unkind nowadays it’s a joke! I really hope she gets the help she needs that’s alot to take on at such a young age. Sound like she has the best big sister to look after her. There are places that can help and also counselling ? Unless you’ve already done this. Have you spoken to the school too? Your doing amazing
Spoken to the school, she’s got a grief counsellor but she won’t tell me how it’s going but then that’s her own privacy and I know people are so unkind and to be saying that she’s the reason and cause of our parents passing something like that sticks with you for life. The school on the other hand say they have dealt with these kids saying this but is that just oh don’t do it again. It’s got to the stage that we’re actually moving away from the school and housing area altogether because of it
Thats bloody awful what youre going through. Kids are so mean, they have no idea on the effects it can have on a person. I know youll keep your little sister safe but be kind to yourself too. Make sure your both getting the help that you need. That link may be useful for both of you too. Xx
I know and it’s not fair on her as her mental health is so bad already. I will have a look thank you!