My Lovely Husband passed away ,on the 23rd December 2021…So everything is very raw…He died following a fit/heart attack…i tried my hardest to save him, but feel like i failed him…the paramedics tried for 2.5 hrs before they called it…He has a daughter who lives with her mum… my friends have been lovely , but the nights and mornings are really difficult to cope with, as i am on my own…–Well physically on my own, he is everywhere…started the closing down of things…but this makes me feel like im getting rid of him.Can not see how this will ever get better at the moment…
I would give everything , to have just one last hug from him…one last everything…everyone is being very kind…but i just want everyone to be as devastated as i am…they say it will get better over time…just can not see how

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Dear @Jod

Welcome to the Community. I am so sorry to hear of the recent loss of your husband. You are in the early stages of grief and it will take time. Please do not be hard on yourself. You need to take one day at a time.

Cruse Bereavement offer a support service and have a helpline on 0808 808 1677 for someone to talk to. Alternatively you can visit their website []

You can connect with members here under the topic Losing my husband who have experienced what you are going through and can also support you.

Please do not feel you are alone and keep reaching out.

Take care.


Sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband ten months ago. He had a cardiac arrest and I tried my best to save him. Don’t feel you have to rush to sort out his things. It’s ten months on and I still can’t bring myself to sort them out. Take an hour at a time and move through the grief slowly. It takes time and there will be days we’re you cry all the time. Also you may feel anxious. I have honestly felt that sometimes i am going mad. I miss my husband everyday and talk to him as if he was still here. They will be with us always in spirit and I know I will see him again. I have never experienced pain as I have from losing my soulmate in life. We did everything together. Remember to move at your own pace and when people offer help take. If you need help get it because i found I needed the help three months in when I realised the enormity of the losing him. I just fell to pieces. Take care x

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My wife passed away from sudden cardiac arrest on 22 December 2021.
I am feeling all the same emotions as you. I miss her hugs and cuddles and kisses l know l will not have any of these again. I have started to close down things and alter joint accounts. I feel like l am wiping all traces of her away but l know it has to be done.
People say it will get better but l cannot see it.

thank you… I have made my self of list of things to do. Just want to do things right for my husband…perhaps i should to do just x things a day…as I have ended up blubbing to complete strangers…Take care toox

I also found l have ended up blubbing to complete strangers but we are all in the same situation. I have found it has helped a bit as l don’t want to keep burdening family & friends all the time with my woes, as they have their own lives to get on with. Take care x