Hi I lost my husband in march
Hi Vicki, welcome to the club no one wants to join, but has no choice. I’m sorry to hear you lost your husband last year, and I’m sure you’ll be dreading the first anniversary in March. We’re all a friendly, helpful bunch on here. We laugh and cry with and for each other. We share our problems, fears, tears and pretty much everything else too. I’m on another post where we’ve just been discussing a frozen toilet and how to fix it, the problems encountered with lawyers, and so many other things. We’re just here for each other.
So please feel free to tell us anything you want, we’ll listen or reply and try to find answers or say how we feel the same.
Much love, Marnee xxx
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Thank you for welcoming me … I don’t know where to begin . It’s been so hard I’ve got lots of support but because they are to close I don’t like to talk about how I feel for fear of upsetting them I’m currently having bereavement counselling and finding it good x
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Hi Vicki I lost my partner of 20 years in Oct and I completely relate that you find it difficult to completely open up to those close to you. I think, for me, it is because I know that they have their own struggles with our loss. I haven’t posted on this wonderful forum before, however I find reading the support and comments very helpful. I feel lost and the future without my beloved is daunting but we are not alone xxx
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Hi violet
I only joined this forum last night not sure even where to begin … it’s such a hard struggle I had 16 months off work helping n looking after my husband we had only been married for 4 years . I couldn’t bear to b away from him so stayed at home with him … I Neva went anywhere besides hospital appointments so now I find it hard to go out alone . I go to work n back home .
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I know what you mean Vicki, sometimes family is just too close. I’m really lucky to have a huge fantastic family of 20, plus very close good friends. But sometimes I find it better to talk to friends rather than family. As you say they’re all grieving too, but not the same way as us who have lost a partner. Last week my brother opened up about his daughter who took her own life years ago, and said that he felt losing a partner was far worse than even losing a child! I’ve had both those scenarios and it’s definitely worse losing my wife than my daughter, even at one day old!
Don’t worry about what you want to say - it’ll come out as you think about it, and we’re all be here to support you.
Much love M xxx
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I’ve been to the theatre tonight 1st real time going out in nearly 2 years … I’ve had a brilliant evening but now I’m home I feel so guilty for going out and enjoying myself with friends. I always say no when asked to go out but this time I said yes and now it feels so wrong that I laughed and had a good time 