Copping with lost

Coping with bereavement
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I lost my wife 5 months ago we wete married for 40years i have no pne else now and today 3 neighbours started on me saying horrendous stuff which have really knocked me backwards for the first time since my wife died i am thinking about ending it all ,i just dont want to live anymore with this shit from others i feel life isnt worth carrying on with i keep myself to myself and dont bother anyone people ask me in street if i am ok but really i am not they say i am doing well but i am not i dont speak to another human from one day to the next sit in the dark,rearly cook anything and dont eat well which isnt good for me i know being diabetic but i am at stage now where i done care anymore

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Alf I am so sorry this has happened to you, people can be so cruel. I lost my husband of 52 years just over two months ago so I do understand how difficult it is to keep going. You will find lots of support from the lovely people on here they have helped me a lot. Please don’t do anything to hurt yourself, there is an urgent help button at the top of the page which will give you numbers to call for help. Keep posting here you can say exactly how you feel and no judgement.

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Hi.
Nearly all of us on this forum have or are experiencing those feelings.
There are some good people here that will support you and sometimes make you smile or even laugh,my wife of 55yrs passed in April and I was devastated,I am a little more upbeat now,but still have big dips,hang in there try to eat,and be kind to yourself.

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Hi @Alf65 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your wife. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are feeling like you no longer care and are not looking after yourself. I am so sorry for the experience you have had with your neighbours.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately. You can also contact the emergency services via text/RelayUK/999BSL

  • You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. Callers who are Deaf or who have hearing or speech impairments can contact Samaritans for support by email by using jo@samaritans.org or by using the Next Generation Text (NGT) service. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Alf65 , get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,
Alex