Hi Tina,
I hope you’re ok. You keep going too and sending you lots of love xxx
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Neil.
Like Beki said it’s so good and gives hope that you are having good days. I know the bad days will come too but right now it seems like your good are more than bad. Keep going. You are inspiring us. And giving us hope. When the bad days happen we’ll be here for you like you’ve been for us.
Lots of love to you,
Nic xxx
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Beki
My thing is bats. We played bat out of hell at mums funeral. And not long before she went I mentioned I’d not seen the bats that fly between the trees in the park behind me. She said they hibernate. Didn’t know this…:… thick as sometimes. Not long after I saw the bat… me and my eldest would stand outside and say bat out of hell! And the bat would appear. With the lighter nights and being tired I’ve not seen it as going to bed earlier but I asked for mum to give me a sign. Anything. Nothing all day. Went out to look at the sky and say night to her as I do every night and the bat was there. Also flew right above me. I saw it last night too and I stupidly said thank you too I don’t know who. Stupid pointless story really but thought I’d share.
Sending love
Nic xx
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Hi everyone,
It’s been a lovely warm sunny longest day here. I’ve only just come back in the house to watch Sherwood.
Did you go swimming on Sunday @christine51 and I hope you managed to get out in your garden.
@Beki did you get some work done and I hope you had lots of fresh air breaks.
Hope you are both okay @Suzanne30 and @Tina19.
Sending love
Debbie X
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Debbie,
You’ll never move away from doug no matter how much time passes. He’s always in your heart and memories. But do what he’d of wanted you to do with your retirement.
Well earned and well deserved and he’ll be with you in spirit. Hope work was ok today. I need to get back to work. Worry I’ll over sleep and be late with everything without mums wake up message and call if I didn’t answer…: 41, 2 kids and still relied on mum to wake me up…
sending love to you xxx
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Hi Nic, that’s what mums do constantly worry about their children and when they are not here a big part of your life is missing a void that can never be filled.
You will get back to work when you’re ready but there is no hurry.
My daughter spent Father’s Day afternoon with me, she didn’t go to her mum in laws for lunch with the rest of the family, she said Father’s Day didn’t have the same meaning anymore.
I loved your bat story, it reminded me of when I was little. If I went home at dusk, an old neighbour if he saw me he used to say “get home before dark young Debbie or the bats will get in your hair” I believed him for years.
Debbie X
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Evening all 
Loving reading all your caring and supportive comments to us all and this why I really appreciate and care for you all 
I’m just in from work and am back up in morning at 5.30am for an early so will chat more with you all tomorrow x
Bright Blessings this summer solstice and sleep well 
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I think that’s wonderful 
I just can’t see how some of these things can just be a coincidence
Beki x
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Hi Debbie
I got some work done, not loads but enough. As I haven’t seen anyone today I started to get the lonely feeling by afternoon
I came down and thought I’d just sit and watch tv but made the decision to take the kindle outside and watch some tv whilst sat outside! So at least I got some fresh air!!
Day off tomorrow and friend taking me to the hospital for my blood tests - well at least it is a trip out
Hope @christine51is able to check in soon, hope all is well.
@Suzanne30 there’s a 5.30 in the morning?!! Hope you get a good nights sleep. I am not a morning person at all!
Beki x
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Hope everyone has had positive day, the weather here has been glorious. Just been watering the garden even though it says we might have storms tomorrow. Our ruby wedding rose is blooming and has lovely fragrance.
Hope to hear how you all are later .
Sending love Debbie X X
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Evening everyone how is this hideously hot day treating us all x
@christine51 haven’t seen a post from yourself in a couple of days so am hoping all is well with you and look forward to reading your posts when you feel up to it. My plants just now are taking a hammering with this by heat and I’m watering them all but as soon as I turn round they are shrivelled again and I’m like ‘meh don’t be so needy’ 
x
@NEILB72 lovely to read that yesterday was a good Tuesday for you and hoping today has been decent for you too and that your friend phoned as usual. I’m all packed for heading to London this weekend and don’t leave until Friday lol x do you have any shows/plans for this weekend? I remember you were swithering because if the trains x
@Tina19 how are you this week? How is Zoe? Not going ask after your nasty brother lol x are you managing to get out and enjoy the weather? you managed to get the shops at all? Very much miss your posts x
@nicnic…hope you and the girls are doing ok and that you are far enough away from the Festival this weekend that it doesn’t cause any hassle. I’ve been seeing the ariel shots of the place and it looks bigger than ever x. You any plans for their weekend? x
@Beki hahahaha yeah 5.30am!! Not a morning person me but tbh I’m not an afternoon or evening person either x
You got some work done so that’s a win in my book and if you did it whilst dressed then double win 
x it was so hot in our shop today I had one friend in her sports bra working in the warehouse, another constantly eating ice poles (well that may have been me 
), another nearly fainted and one with a long sleeved shirt on under this work top and a jersey…he is crazy 
x. Hope the feeling of loneliness has lifted a little and you’ve been able to enjoy the evening a little x
@Debbie57… how are you this evening? Are you still sitting outside in lovely weather? My great evening tonight is taking the bin out for collection in the morning lol x I had taken the day off tomorrow to take the cat up to the cattery for when I’m away this weekend but the lady phoned and said something had come up and could I take him up tonight…felt so guilty taking him a day early and the silence is weird but couldn’t run the risk of her cancelling totally x the rabbits seem to be making up for the lack of noise as never heard them so noisy lol x that was lovely of your daughter to spend Father’s Day with you and I envy people who had a good relationship with their dad as I never did. Mum used to make me think dads were like Pa Walton or Pa Inglis and I got Rab C Nesbit lol x As long as you can treasure the memories Doug will be forever ‘alive’ x
Have a great night everyone and sleep well. Will look forward to all your posts x
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Wow Debbie that rose is so beautiful x
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Today was all a bit stressful. Last night the friend taking me fell and hurt her ankle and so I thought I may need to get a taxi but thankfully this morning her ankle wasn’t too bad and she soldiered on
So glad she did as turned out to be really triggering. A mix of first time at the hospital and it held a lot of memories of mum - going to her knee rehab there and also it was the place we were meant to be going on the day she died. Also, even at this age going for a blood test and knowing I didn’t have her worrying about me at home etc
So sobbed a bit in the loo and when I sat to get the blood taken. It was a really young nurse and she was so sweet. Didn’t rush me, talked about it and managed to get three vials out of me with no pain!
Back home and the anxiety settled a bit. Watched some tv and this evening went out into the garden and spray painted a chair I am making over for my friends daughter, watered the plants
Little by little
It has been really hot today. Back to working tomorrow and Fri and those are my two tough days of my mind going ‘it’s x weeks since mum went/we spoke’ etc. also not got anything really planned for the weekend
Next week is granddads birthday and he is coming down as it would be mums birthday on Fri 1st. Really not sure how that is going to hit me
@Debbie57 that rose is spectaular!
Beki x
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Hi Beki
Sorry to read about your friend. I can completely understand about you thinking of your Mum at the hospital. I would be exactly the same. It’s those things that hit us the hardest and that other people would not understand.
Hope you can get through your difficult days today and tomorrow as best you can . Remember we are all here for you.
Sending love and best wishes
Neil x
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Hi Suzanne.
Hope we hear from Christine soon . I’m sure she can see our comments and will get back to us soon.
So you are all ready for London. I have nothing planned this week as I did it all on Sunday because of the trains. Hope you will able to get around OK and enjoy Wicked !
Speak soon
Love and best wishes
Neil x
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Hi all,
I’ve been reading through these posts a lot and they have been helping me.
I lost my mum unexpectedly 11 days ago, she would of been 59 yesterday.
If you don’t mind I thought I would join your group just to share how things are and to talk to people who are in the same position.
Lucy x
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Hi Lucy, I’m sorry to hear about your mum and your just at the beginning of your journey everything will be very raw and emotional for you.
They are a lovely group of people and I’ve only just started joining in a few weeks ago, but like you I had been reading their posts for awhile and loved the way they supported each other.
My mum died 22 years ago now, but losing my husband nearly 16 months ago has brought me to this forum. But we have two grown up married children and I know how much they are missing their dad.
I normally post in the evenings as I’m at work at the moment but just taking a coffee break.
Speak to you soon.
Debbie X
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Hi Debbie,
Nice to meet you, even though it’s under these awful circumstances. Yes it’s all still very fresh for me so fighting through each day.
I’m so sorry to hear of your losses. Your children must be having a tough time too.
The support I’ve seen on here has been wonderful and definitely something I’d like to be a part of.
I go back to work this evening so hoping for a little normality later. I shall be checking in when I can but am definitely more of a night owl.
Speak soon x
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Hi Lucy
Welcome aboard our lovely group . So sorry you had to find us and so sorry to hear about your Mum .
I’m Neil aged 50 from Bexley , South East London. I lost my Mum over 6 months ago aged 82. She passed away suddenly . I was her carer and it nearly destroyed me but I’ve recently finished counselling and I do feel as if I am making progress now. I cope by continuing to go and see shows as it brings me joy and have friends helping me get through that I’ve met through theatre /performance. They have been so kind to me.
Anyway, welcome once again and look forward to any posts you share. We are all here supporting each other . Whether you post something uplifting or having a bad day that is OK too . Grief is like going on a rollercoaster.
Sending love and best wishes
Neil x
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