CREATING A SHRINE FOR MY MAM

[Nick22]

HI Christine,

I took in my first cat when I was about 14 or 15. We were camping in Holland every year for many years. There was a young cat and no one knew where she came from. I fed her each day and looked after her. I could not find her the day we went home again. I looked everywhere. Just as we where ready to go home again, I found her near a small lake. My mother hoped I would not find her, but I did. I was so happy and she became my cat. Sadly, she did not get very old, I took her to the vet to be spayed but he messed up the operation. About two years later I found a cat in Hamburg, less 100m from where I was living. She was so skinny and would eat anything, even crisps. So, I took her in. She was a bit like a dog. We used to go for walks all the time, she followed me everywhere. I do not know what it was but I took many cats in over the year. The last one was Fluffy. Tammy will probably my last cat. She is outside all the time now. She does not mind sharing her garden with her fox friend. I think they also sleep together sometimes, I can smell the fox on her.

I did not do much lately, just do not have the energy at the moment. I also have to take the antidepressants again. - The skip arrived two days ago. I now have to fill it. I will have to give away some of my furniture, no space in my brother’s house. - I managed to sort out some of my brother’s clothes and gave them to the St Helena Hospice. (Some still had the tags on it.) I will have to do the same with some of my furniture. I will miss my bungalow but I have to sell it. I think I will feel much better once it is all sorted. The biggest problem will be my Hi-Fi. I have 12 speakers just in the living room and another 5 in the bedroom. No idea where to put them all. (Also 3 TVs). There are so many speakers in my brother’s house already plus another 2 TVs. (I have to sell some of my brother’s speakers if I can.)

I get my exercise in the park playing with the dogs. I am also fetching the ball for one of them. (Stupid dog. Or, I should say stupid me.) I think swimming would be better but I am not keen on swimming. But, I also walk on the beach.

My friend Nick from the 70s came to visit me. (He was my and my brother’s neighbour in Tollesbury, Essex.) Everything is OK, no bad news, and his back is much better now. We went down memory lane. It was a strange feeling talking about my brother. I will try to find some photos of my brother.

You are right, being alone is so difficult. That is why I walk and talk in the park.

I think I will start clearing the attic. I also have a big skip. The garage will be next. I will also get some help. - I will probably take my dining table and chairs over for now until I make up my mind what to do. (My brother’s died at his dining table.) I have to find out if my table will fit. I think I will do the bedroom last. I have to move 9 or 10 computers to another room first. Yes, I know what you are thinking. My brother bought them all. ?? I think I need a bigger house.

All the best, and, do not forget the hug for Porsche - Niko

[Tina19]

Hi Christine

Im sorry you didn’t get to go swimming but there’ll be other opportunities. If you weren’t feeling it then you’d not have enjoyed it.

I did go to the next town this morning I think I set off on the 7.30am bus and it was 30mins journey. To get there I had to go past Mums cousin’s house who had passed away just 5months after her and I found that sad.

I actually didn’t buy a thing though! I picked up a pack of glitter craft card that had been reduced to 59p and then asked myself what I was thinking of! I have 5packs of glitter card already! It’s really not the same on your own though. I do enjoy the solitude and the mental breathing space but you just sometimes get funny looks when you are walking through the shops on your own. Either that or I’m getting more paranoid with old age. They had a huge Primark but you can see the CCTV on the ceiling and you can just sense being “followed” through the store by the cameras! I would be no good as a shoplifter I’d be a nervous wreck! I think I’m getting a complex about going in shops and being watched!! I will probably have to go out tomorrow morning early. Zoe creates absolute mayhem in the mornings. If it’s not squeaky balls in the garden at 6.30am it’s something else. I was trying to pacify her earlier with a tug toy and ive injured my back. Paracetamol and tiger balm has made no effect. She doesn’t pull the tug toy with all four legs on the ground she lifts them up for extra momentum and tries to fling me round with the toy as well. (she would have a job with that!)

Glad to hear Porsch is feeling stronger.

Going to try and take some more painkillers and go to bed. Not sure how many I have taken already so might leave it as late as I can. The painkillers may make me sleep a bit but I am a bit wary with taking paracetamol.

Hope you are feeling more up to things tomorrow. I don’t think the weather is to be so good at all where you are so you may get let off doing the concrete work.

Much love to you both xx

[Tina19]

Hello Nick.

As a cat lover before having German Shepherd’s I can see the beauty in cats and your kitty had some stunning markings in her fur. The photo of her gazing into the camera is totally captivating.

You’ve been hard at it again with the workload by the sound of it Nick, don’t go too mad !!

Much love xx

[Tina19]

This is Zoe yesterday, who is only a fraction of the dog she used to be as she has shed her coat all over the house!

[Tina19]

He had her out in the park yesterday and he saw this little girl running to her Mum crying "Mummy, Mummy there’s a wolf over there!! With Zoe being a quarter Husky mix she does look like a wolf in some ways!!

[Palou]

Hello Tina, what a lovely photo of Zoe - she looks perfectly angelic there!
Hope your back gets less painful soon and that you manage to have a peaceful night.
Hugs to all xxx

[christine51]

Hi Nik,
Love hearing about all your cats. One of ours was a stray. The old vicars cat. Our Marmalade took her in, fed her and let her stay! He was a beautiful soul and helped many little cats who needed a meal. He loved his camping holidays, roaming the fields at night, bringing us ‘treats’ ! He would wrap himself round dads shoulders in the car. Others drivers thought it was hilarious! He was so chilled out. He was like a dog too. We could trust him to get out the car for a toilet and stretch his legs when we stopped for a cuppa on the journey. He will always be my favourite of all the cats we have had, though I do adore Porscha and she is my baby. She’s back to her old self again, screaming as soon as she wants feeding. Doesn’t stop until I come running! And in the middle of the night if she can wake me up. She loves her new food and ate some of the meat chunks so really happy and relieved about it. The appetite stimulants seem to be working. She has a good bite and then back to her drawer. I can’t imagine the house without something for me to care for and love, though to get another cat will feel like a betrayal to her.
I think once you move into your brothers house Tammy might be more inclined to come back in, especially when it turns Autumnal, though that’s anyones guess with the weather. Heard Europe (Spain, Greece) have weather warnings for tourists. People are dying in the 45 degree heat. I miss going on holiday but not going abroad. I do love watching people getting removed from flights for fighting on youtube!
Sorry to hear you are back on the anti depressants. It’s not surprising as grief attacks in waves. I find every ‘good run’ is followed by exhaustion. I’ve been out of action for a while. Feels like ages. But I feel a lot better now and repaired the plastic sheet at the back gate (took forever to do in the rain but at least I didn’t have an audience). I think if you can be busy and get things done when you are able and then rest to recover your energy, as I do, you’ll get through the work. I thgink when you make a start on the skip you’ll fill it quickly. Can you throw things out of the window instead of having to carry a lot up and downstairs? Would be a lot easier.
It must feel like a mammoth task clearing your house. You’ve already done such a lot at your brothers house too. I think clearing stuff you really don’t want will allow you to make good decisions about your furniture, whether to take yours or keep your brothers. You could have a mix of the best. And with a set number of rooms things like tv’s can be sorted quickly. Box up the hifi and all the speakers and sort that out when you have already moved in. I’m baffled by the need for all those computers! I think having one to use and one as a backup is a good decision. Schools are crying out for technology. They could collect a lot of the computer stuff you don’t need. Deciding whether to sort it out now or to take it all with you to do later is a big one but if you took the newest or best with and let go of all the rest (to donate) it would be a massive achievement. I know it’s always easier to make these decisions when it’s someone elses stuff. Would a friend be trusted enough to help you with that?
They say that moving house and bereavement are two of the biggest stresses in life. But to move is a common thing with grief. Making big life decisions. You’ll feel very free when you do get turned around. To have less stuff makes you able to see and appreciate what you have got. Mam used to accuse me of being a hoarder of fabrics! It’s my ‘stock’ for my textiles. It’s all sorted into colour combos and future projects. Using the loft as another room has made a massive difference to the space I have downstairs. I also store my seasonal clothes up there on mini rails.
Is it pouring where you are? I love the rain. Just waiting for my shopping to be delivered. Sitting at the window looking out onto the garden, watching the birds and squirrel feeding. Topped up the ponds earlier too. Lovely watching the garden and seeing what I have created. I was quite down about my plants dying and wondering why I have so little flowers. It’s a sea of green out there.
Porsch got some treats in with her new food (will try them later) and a little mouse (she’s so not bothered!) She’s quite content again.
Good look with your sorting out. I find the trick is short bursts. See how much clearing into the skip can be done easily without making big decisons. But it must be really hard when you have 2 of everything you will need. If you can visualise yourself in the future living in the space, sitting at both dining tables for example, using both dinner sets, you will arrive at a natural decision. Easier said than done, I know!
Looking forward to hearing about what you decide.
Lots of love xxx
Oh, great that your friend had a good catch up and no bad news. Will you do it again? To have real friends and to keep those relationships fresh is key to happiness I should think. xxx

[christine51]

Hi Tina,
Have you tried a hot bath for your back? I find it allows works with aches and pains from the garden or if I’ve been lying funny in bed. Give it a try. Nothing worse than a bad back. I can imagine Zoe taking full advantage of you, determined to be the winner!
You’re eager leaving at that time of the morning! But do you feel better for having been out, even if you didn’t get anything special? Having a balance between going out and staying in is key to managing my anxiety, however anxiety provoking it may be. I hate the thought of being watched in shops too. Having anxiety makes me super vigilant and I am very aware of ‘appearing normal’. It’s like being an actress, trying to contain all the fear so nobody would know looking at me. Having a list helps to get round as quickly as poss. I find browsing for candles and homeware quite stressful so often end up not getting anything and trying again next time I go in. Doing everything alone is just no fun. I used to love shopping on my own but feel so vulnerable now that I have a very small window of opportunity before the panic sets in.
I’m just waiting for my shopping, watching the birds feeding their chicks, and the squirrels searching through the birdseed for their peanuts. Creep isn’t in so I’m able to sit at the back window with the nets open. The garden is a sea of green. I was out earlier fixing new bolts to the back gate and wrapping a new plastic sheet over the trellis to stop people getting in as the old one had torn. I found the bold undone and I know I would not have left it like that myself, being hyper vigilant on safety. Took ages to do as up and down ladders in the rain. But at least I didn’t have an audience and it was a job I knew needed doing. Also had a tidy up for the council coming next week to inspect the roof for the rats. Have had a good idea too for the fence and trellis next to the house when I get it finished. I’ll add half arches so the top curves over and will cover in green plastic so the creep can’t see over the fence and look through my windows. He has his picnic table (with the benches attached) right next to the fence so he can stand on it and peer over like I caught him doing when he first moved in (would watch me sewing by the window before I knew what he was doing). So with a curved arch attached to the trellis top he won’t be able to see in. He’s cut so much of the tree and climbing rose that the pergola is no longer dense in coverage for the birds. I’ll cut back all the dead branches and hope that there will be some regrowth for next year. I was wondering how on earth I was going to tackle finishing the fence / trellis but I feel more able to do it now.
Seem to have recovered my energy again. It comes back as quickly as it goes. Just relieved I can now get some work done again in the garden. Getting the patio finished when it stops raining is my priority as I need the summer heat for it to set.
Been picking loads of my loganberries and took some along for my friend. Now I know that grows really well I’ll get another one so that the whole fence is thick with brambles and fruit. Be a relief to get the big jobs finished and the plants in so I can think about pots on the patio for seasonal planting.
Your glitter cards sound intriguing. Can you cut them up, mix them up, for a mosaic extravaganza to brighten up door panels or wall? Be good for bouncing light around the room. Still haven’t forgotton about my garden mosiacs.
I was very surprised last night when I realised it’s dark by 9.30pm. I always think summer lasts forever and don’t see the light changing unless I’m out there.
Just had shopping delivered and the creep is back. Can’t imagine him standing out there in the rain in broad daylight watching me at the window but you never know! That’s exactly what he used to do. Sure he’s mentally not all there.
I’m glad it’s Friday, though I’ve hardly achieved anything this week with not feeling well. I hate being ill. Will make up for it next week. So pleased I cleared the bench of dishes and have my washing hug up. I rigged a bamboo rail up in the bathroom, hanging on hooks in the ceiling. Makes a great drying rail.
Will catch up on the rest of posts and then watch a bit of Judge Judy and indulge in my treats - burger, crisps (usual) and a cornetto for afters. Monty tonight and then Celebrity Gogglebox. My favourite night of the week for telly.
Will pop back tomorrow. Sure I’ll be in bed early again. It’s like banking sleep so I can get back to normal.
Lots of love xxx

[christine51]

Hi Tina,
Imagine of Zoe started chasing the little girl! It would be like something out of Hansel and Gretal (? that is the one with the wolf as Grandma? - always scared me).
She does look very quiet there, like she’s posing. But I can see the mischief she’s about to unleash. Half the size! She really is a beauty!
Creep has been lurking in the back garden as I’ve just heard his door going. Must have been peering in while I was putting my shopping away! So very creepy. Beyond words! He’s already been inside my house so what is there to see? Can’t wait to get those trellises up to make it even harder for him to see. Have 2 posts, 1 fence panel and 2 trellises to get up. Want to get it done just to bloody spite him!
Off to watch Judge Judy.
Lots of love xxx

[christine51]

Hi Palou, Just wanted to say hi and you’ll see from my posts to Nick and Tina that I’m feeling so much better today. So pleased I can get back to doing stuff again and not lounging around. I’m happiest when I’m busy.
Porsch is doing very well too and enjoying her new food. The appetite tablets are working. She wakes me up during the night for food now (so annoying!) but I’m happy that she’s eating again and seems quite content.
Do you have rain? Garden is looking very green. Love the change in light when it rains. The greens seem to shine out. Been watching all the birds and squirrels feeding, sitting by the window at the sitting room. Creep is back, lurking in the garden in the rain!
Settling down to some Judge Judy (love seeing the naughty people getting their comeuppance as mam would say).
Hope you are well and find some comfort in the ‘good’ days. I’m hoping I can start swimming again now that I have my energy back.
Lots of love xxx

[christine51]

Hi Tina,
Just had another quick look at Zoe’s pic and it’s like 2 dogs with a smaller one hiding behind her!
Having a flashback to 1995 (Top of the Pops) as there’s nothing on tv until Monty. Love Portishead!
xxx

[Debbie57]

Hi everyone on this very wet miserable day.

It’s been so busy at work, it feels as if the end of term should be today but not until next Thursday.
Went to my granddaughter’s school yesterday to their presentation evening, she won the dancing award in key Stage 4. I’m so thrilled for her, especially as I got to see her presented with it. Only three guest allowed for each student and so chuffed she wanted me there.
I’ll make you smile, I’m sure I’m loosing my marbles, I was invited by a neighbour to her 70th birthday party at local sports and social club. Not my thing drinking in a bar, so I text her earlier to say I probably wouldn’t go tomorrow evening. Turns out today is actually 14th July, I thought it was tomorrow . I will pop round with a card and houseplant tomorrow.
I got absolutely soaked earlier when I was food shopping it hasn’t stopped raining here since 9am. Just sometimes I wish I could drive, still it’s an adventure catching buses , it reminds me of Doug driving them and just sometimes I like to imagine he actually is the driver, silly I know.
Had a phone call from the hospital today, they want me to go in for a pre-operation physio appointment, to discuss what will happen when my knee is replaced. I’m hoping this means I will hear a date soon for my operation. My daughter is going to come with me.

I loved all your cat photos @Nick22 , I’m sorry your still feeling down at the moment . Moving home is very stressful and all the sorting out of merging two homes into one. I hope once your in your brother’s house, things will settle for you and you and Tammy are happy and content there.

Birthdays are always difficult @NEILB72 , it’s just finding the way to get through them. Have you got anymore theatre trips or ballet planned soon.

I’m glad Porsch is doing well as can be expected and eating again, small steps and little gains @christine51. I like the name for the man the other side of you Mr Testosterone, it made me smile. I’m sure you will get your energy back to go swimming next week, the wet miserable weather doesn’t help.

I love the photo of Zoe @Tina19 , she has such an innocent face, so pleased you went for a wonder on the bus to the next town. It will do you good to get out from the house and do something for you.

Hi @Palou, @Suzanne30 and @Beki hope you are all doing the best you can be.

I’m off to make a cuppa and settle down to watch some TV, Doug used to love watching Judge Judy @christine51 , at nine I’m going to watch “not going out” I do like Lee Mack, then watch last half an hour of gogglebox followed by The Last Leg, my sense of humour makes me laugh after a hard week at work .
Love to everyone
Debbie xxxx

[christine51]

Hi Debbie,
Hang in there Debbie, not long to go before you’re free! though breaking up for summers hols will be disappointing for the kids with all the rain.
That is lovely to have been chosen to be at your granddaughters presentation. She loves her grandma! She’s doing so well. I always wished I’d continued with ballet. I hang my slippers up at xmas to celebrate childhood, along with Pandy and other carefully chosen things. Every little girl should learn to dance, and boy if they want to, though you never heard of it up north in the seventies! Very male / female stereo roles.
You’re not the only one to not have a clue about the date. Always have to check my diary for the eggs sell by date. Usually give them to the foxes. The fox must have enjoyed the extra cheese sarnie and salad dressing I put out last night, along with the usual dog food and treats with the 2 plates cleared this morning.

[christine51]

got cut off in my post so continuing:
I love that you imagine Doug driving the bus. Means he is with you on your journey. Must be hard carrying your shopping home though without any help. You could do the bulk of it with a delivery and then just get bits in when you come in from work.
Fab news about your knee appointment and so pleased you don’t have to go on your own. It will be a big recovery and you’ll need help with even the basics.
I enjoyed being out in the rain doing new bolts and plastic cover at the back gate. Meant no one was out so I was free to just get the job done without panicking. Disturbing when I found the middle bolt undone. I’m so very careful with security. They have no chance getting in or out now. I’ll get some pics tomorrow. So relieved my energy is back again. It’s like I snap out of it until the next one. More rain again tomorrow but I like the rain. Love watching it with Porsch as we watch the birds and she screeches at the pigeons (just as big as she is!) She’s doing so well now enjoying her new food and her appetite is back. She screams during the night to wake me up for food.
Had a message from my niece about going swimming tonight but I got it too late as I didn’t hear the phone and had no service on the mobile with the rain. Will go after work next week with her.
Do you have anything nice planned this weekend, apart from a much needed rest by the sounds of it? Breaking up for summer always seemed such a long way off and it’s strange that it’s here now. Hope you aren’t going on hols to any of the scorching hot countries where it’s over 45 degrees with health warnings. Hope it doesn’t come here. I’ll have to sit in the pond to cool off!
Will pop in tomorrow.
Lots of love xxx

[Tina19]

Hi Palou
Thanks. Back just got worse so I got up at the crack of dawn and had a walk to the Asda for some Ibuprofen as paracetamol hasn’t been working. She pulled so hard on the toy she was tugging that it’s gone from my neck, shoulder and arm. She’s a rough player!

Have a peaceful Saturday Palou

Much love xx

[Tina19]

Hi Christine

It’s lovely to hear you have your energy back with you.

The back just got worse, well it’s the neck shoulder and arm really so I walked to Asda to get Ibuprofen instead. I needed some other stuff so thought I’d do both jobs together. Asda is really not a nice place to be in at weekend. I went last night though and I heard this woman say she’d just had her purse stolen. I must remember to give him the brufen to put in his van as at 6momths old Zoe found a strip and took a toxic dose. It took 2 months to get the all clear. Our last GSD was on paracetamol three times a day for 3 years so it wouldn’t have been so bad if she had those type but it has to be the ibuprofen which was a fluke having them in the house in the first place. It’s deadly for dogs.

No I didn’t buy a thing from Wigan. However when I went to Asda this morning they still had gardening stock in the sale left so I bought some new pruners, s-hooks etc and a huge box of wild flower scatter seeds. Not a clue where I’m gonna put the scatter seeds! The seeds were just 1.00.

I got back and it poured down so just escaped that at least!

I’ll just have a coffee and will then put my shopping away.

2 Zoe’s!! I must have a look at that. It’s true what you say about her posing. I think he took so many photos of her as a puppy that she’d sit still until he told her her it was ok to move and she she’s just been conditioned over time and stuck. She will just not move when she is being photographed until she can see you’ve taken the picture. Aren’t pets funny. Who says they don’t have their own little brains.

I’m sure I was going to say something else but it’s gone!

Speak later
Much love xx

[NEILB72]

Hi Debbie
Have theatre this afternoon- Groundhog Day at the Old Vic. Apparently last nights show was abandoned due to cast sickness so really hoping it goes ahead this afternoon!
Will post tomorrow when I get more time
Sending love and best wishes to everyone
Neil x

[NEILB72]

Hi everyone
Not a great week but back at the wonderful Old Vic theatre yesterday to see the musical Groundhog Day, which was great as I knew it would be! The performance the night before was abandoned due to cast sickness so relieved it was on yesterday afternoon, with a few cast changes and the whole company was fab.
Booked up for Grease in September while I was in London.
Ridiculously windy yesterday!
Sending love and best wishes to you all
Neil x
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[christine51]

Hi Tina,
Can’t believe Zoe will pose until you take the pic! What a sweet girl! I suppose you can train them to do anything from being young. It’s very hit and miss whether Porsch will move or not. So getting a good one of her is a magic snapshot.
Sorry to hear about your pain. Mam was on ibuprofen for years for her arthritis. I suppose it stops working after a bit. She’s a big strong young. Needs your bro to rough play with her when he comes in from work. She’d be delighted and look forward to him getting in everyday.
Your wild flower seeds don’t need good soil so just throw them and let nature take her course. Some might take 2 years. I did mine in with the orchard so if I get anything I’ll be pleased. You always manage to get a bargain! I miss going to the actual shops. Not the same shopping online. I suppose it stops me impulse buying but usually it’s something I know I will love. When / if I ever get to the local pool again I’ll start going in Sainsbury’s again and see what Autumnal plants they have. My bulbs have died back now so I’ll take the bulbs out, dry and wrap in paper and store them (God knows where! - prob the kitchen cupboard, which means finding a home for the drill and diy stuff). Sure the compost will be good for small plants. Will stick to what I know grows well - pansies. Enjoy your new pruners. I love a new gardening tool. I have inherited all the garden bumph from my parents move and putting it to good use.
I’ve been working my socks off the last 2 days now I am back to normal. Worked on removing the fence / trellis pieces next to the house which was cobbled together around the trees and roses. Had to remove the bits to see where I could get the posts in and how to place the fence panel in order to keep what is there (very old climbing rose from before I moved in). Had a late start the first day as I’d been doing the fishtank. Creep came back without me knowing and he’s suddenly there, hanging out his washing as slowly as he possibly could. And then sat down right where I was working. So I had to abandon it and get some plastic sheets up and the pallet that was there before to stop him crawling through. I continued it early this morn as he went out very early and managed to remove the rest and make a plan of how to tackle it. I didn’t want him coming back early again so I overed it all up again and got my cement panel done. Rain held off but I’ve covered it just in case.
I made an awful discovery while I was busy. The creep has stacked 4 car tyres in the corner next to the house in the same place where he had the green bin (used to climb on it to watch me through the window). So I took pics for the council for Wed when they come to inspect the roof. I also phoned my therapist and left a message telling him what I had discovered so whoever was outside would have heard. There were some comments about how I wasn’t making it up and that he is always talking / bitching about me. (I have heard him). So he is exposed yet again. But there will be no consequences. He doesn’t seem to possess ‘shame’. I caught him on camera (because I needed to know how long he was there watching me through the gap while I was digging out bits of the patio in prep for more grouting) and saw him loitering, obviously watching the woman who had parked her car next to his drive. She had lots of bags and it wasn’t a get out of the car quickly. He stayed watching her for ages and then walked in with a toolbox. So I’m relieved it isn’t just me but watching him doing that makes me wonder what he’s been doing to me that I’m not aware of. Following me to swimming and then waiting to follow me to Sainsburys and then home makes me go cold. I kept thinking to myself not to be paranoid, that he lives in the area and is prob just shopping (like he was every time I went in the coop and that was why I stopped because he was there every time). But the conversation he was having about it when he got back, that he couldn’t keep up with me, that I was in a panic, that I was ‘normal’ makes me realise how unaware I am about him watching and following me. Can’t stop it from happening but I can make my house / garden as secure as poss and let everyone know what he is and what he is doing. I wonder if he is known to the council and police. Like I’ve said to them, I can’t be the only woman he has / is doing this to. Still amazes me the thing about the loft. Unbelievable. He was drilling while I was out there and as soon as I came in with Porsch (it turned quite chill) he stopped and has been in and out of that van because I’m in the bedroom. I’ve had to close all the windows. I’m living in darkness.
I heard ladders when I came in. Assume it is him looking over the fence to see what I’ve been doing. It’s so exhausting trying to catch him at it. I’ve never been frightened of anyone in my life except him because I don’t know what he is capable of. And what he was doing in my house.
OMG! I’ve had a good couple of days catching up on getting jobs done (2 big jobs) and he ruins it with his creepiness. Wish he would move out. Kept thinking about telling mam and then remembered she isn’t here and wonder how can that be real? I never ever imagined being without my mam. Life doesn’t make sense without her. It really doesn’t. Upset again!
Just saw that you posted yesterday. Think I got in late after my panic and was out until about 9. Then had the bathroom and floors to clean after cleaning the fishtank. So ran out of time. Monty wasn’t on Fri. Really miss him when he’s not there because he is my end of week and I like to look back at what I have achieved. If I can manage to get that fence finished everything else will be a doddle!
Mr Testosterone was parked on the grass again, like the rules do not apply to him. So annoying. Still haven’t complained about it. Don’t want to be that person. But I don’t make the rules. And I certainly had to follow them myself when I had to get rid of my compost bins.
Soz. Having a rant! The older I get the more people annoy me. But then the people around here aren’t ‘normal’!
Gonna catch up with everyone else, even though I’ve given you all my gossip!
Lots of love xxx