I have always had anxiety issues and been on and off of meds. Since the death of my husband in March of this year, I am almost unable to function. I have no one to call in emergencies or even just to calm me down if I am having a panic attack. Of course I feel depressed and I miss him, but there are still things I would like to do like dinner with my grandson tomorrow. I want to find some kind of joy, my husband would want that for me. But my anxiety was so bad today, I don’t even know if I can make it. I have a call in to my doctor, will probably hear from him tomorrow. Ended up in the ER Saturday night, they did all the tests and ruled out anything major. Yet I feel like my body is failing me. I am 65, he was 70. I am trying to live with some purpose, yet I can barely function. Is anyone else anxiety stricken with their grief?
hi i am so sorry for your loss but this is still very early days for you and you cant expect to much from yourself so soon you have to take one minute or one hour at a time i think our body lets us know that we are struggling with the loss of our loved ones my husband passed away last may so we are getting to the one year of his passing and at first i felt so painfull inside but you get their take a breath and give yourself time dont expect to much i was with my husband 49 years and i am 70 years old but trust me you will slowly start to manage i hope you do okay
You did the right thing joining this community - this is a whole new scary experience for all of us in this situation. The loss of a partner pulls the rug from under us and it feels like everything is a new challenge. Anxiety over everything is normal and will get better as the initial shock wears off. Dont put pressure on yourself to act and feel like you did before - everything is different now and it will take time for things to settle down. Reading through the posts here will help you to feel that you are not alone with how you feel .
So sorry for your loss and yes i have anxiety and panic attacks too. It has become worse since my partner died on Valentines day this year.
You could have gone out with your grandson. You might have enjoyed it. However my guess is you worked yourself up beforehand. (I do the same thing).
Try a nice relaxing bath with a few drops of lavender essential oil.
Im sure youre body is not failing you, thats the anxiety talking. Have you been back to your GP to enquire about support groups or one to one support?
In the meantime try some deep breathing exercises. It helps me when anxiety tries to get the better of me. Let me know if it works for you,
@luckylindey
I’m sorry for your loss .
I lost my partner in March too and I’ve suffered everything that you are experiencing as well.
It’s absolutely dreadful but it’s our grieving process.
I had meltdown in Aldi first time I went in n then at my sons when I went for Mothers Day. I feel anxious when I wake up but I think it’s because not only do I miss him terribly I don’t want to keep crying so I’m then anxious so it’s a vicious circle but you really are not alone in his you are feeling.
I think probably it’s sinking in with the realisation our partners are gone and not coming back.
Listen to your inner self and if you don’t want to get out of bed one day it’s perfectly acceptable. If you don’t want to do housework, so what, don’t. If you want a walk or sit in the sun then do that.
We have to be kind to ourselves just now so let’s do it together.
I lost my wife in March at 49. I have had panic attacks ever since!
I’ve had an increase in anxiety, too. I have read it’s quite normal w/ grieving/aftermath process. For me, it’s the fear, fear of this and that and having to do most things alone. I think it’s a learning curve as I’m a bit more adjusted than last year.