I havn’t posted on here for quite a while although I read a lot of your messages. I lost my darling husband and soul mate in June 2023 and although last year was terrible I thought I was coping quite well. 52 years together 49 married. These last few days I find myself crying at the least little thing and last night I just couldnt sleep and cried most of the night. Today I feel just awful. What is the point of everything. So much has happened this last year with my daughters marriage breaking up because of an abusive husband (which she hid from us 
) My son has 11 year old twins one of which has been diagnosed with low spectrum autism and the other who hasnt been diagnosed but I suspect has ADHD. I just so wish my darling was here to help me as he was my rock but he wouldnt have been able to cope as he was so ill himself. Sorry just a pity me day.
Hello @AnnieG1,
That sounds like so much to cope with, it’s no wonder you are struggling right now. Thank you for sharing with us - I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support 
Annie, I am so sorry your husband died and you are so sad and crying. Your family matters are most troubling and feeling sad about it all is normal. Throw the holidays on top and it is no wonder you are feeling low.
It is hard for a mother to have both children having big problems in life and being unable to fix any of it. So sorry. Somehow, you will get through it all. I know it would be so much better if your husband were here to talk about it and vent your emotions.
Your daughter will handle her affairs as will your son. You raised them to be independent adults, so let them be that. Your role now is to be the consoling momma, mother in law, and grandmother. Your ‘raising kids’ days are done and you did a fabulous job, they will be alright.
Cry your heart out. It is okay. It will pass.
Much love.
Thank you both. x
I read so many letters of the way crying is now part of every day life. I lost my wife of 87 to a catastrophic stroke in August this year. June already had 2 boys and we had a wonderful and mostly harmonious life with my step family. Her death, which I still feel was avoidable, has left me completely devestated - I now cry almost continuously and at the least provocation and have given up all thoughgts of embarassment! Richard Cooper
Rac5081 I am so sorry for your loss. Each day is very hard especially coming up to any special occasion. I feel I am fine some days and then I just cant stop crying on others. Stay safe.
Ann