Hello everyone,
I have just joined this site in the hope of finding others who can relate to my experience or be able to share openly how I am feeling as a method of coping.
So in the last 5 years I have experienced multiple losses and my life has changed drastically as a result. I have reduced my working hours, I take medication and believe I am now struggling with fibromyalgia because of this prolonged stress on my body. I am 27 and really hope that with the right work I will be able to get back to a more ‘normal’ life that I can enjoy.
A breakdown;
March 2015: My Grandpa passed away from cancer, I held his hand whilst he passed
I immediately struggled with work and university at this time and was offered very little to no support.
August 2015: I lost my job and my place at University (with one exam left before obtaining my degree)
October 2015: I lost contact with ALL of my school friends/largest group of friends leaving me with only one best friend to rely on
December 2015: My Gran was rushed to hospital suffering from a stroke and heart attack
May 2016: my then Fiance and I were doing a year abroad when I found him with another girl - I felt I could not confront this at the time as his Dad was visiting us
June 2016: My Gran passed away and I, naturally put my relationship issues to one side to do what I thought was ‘deal’ with the bereavement
October 2016: We return home from being abroad and the 5 year relationship and engagement ends quite abruptly
June 2017: My beloved pet dog passed away in my arms following a short illness
August 2017: My best friend of years told me she no longer wanted me in her life. She cut me out completely, so I have no way of contacting her or knowing if she’s ok anymore
June 2018: I lost my first pregnancy (with new partner)
November 2018: Quit my full time job - they were chasing me about sick absences and I knew it wasn’t going to end well
2019: I lost my mind for most of this year - challenges in my relationship, self-destructive drunken behaviour. Anger issues
December 2019: My Gran passed away suddenly and very unexpectedly. I was with her the day previous arranging when we would be watching a new movie. I feel so much guilt that I didn’t stay longer or do more
I would add that during this time period I was on Roaccutane (acne medication) twice - which is very harsh on the body mentally and physically.
I was struggling physically previous to all of this because of a car crash I was in in 2013.
I have seen 3 therapists myself and 1 relationship therapist.
I am employed as a carer and my old job was extremely difficult and stressful, especially dealing with complex needs and palliative care.
I need to start processing all of this so that I can move forward with my life.
Mel x