Lost my dad a week ago today. He passed at a SR hospice and got the most incredible care. However he didn’t when he was at Gloucester Royal and it angers me. My life feels empty without him and feels like I have no purpose now. My heart aches and it’s all so painful I’m not sure how to navigate myself through these first few weeks?
Hello @Bridget24 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling overwhelmed and unsure how to navigate your grief. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hi there, I lost my lovely dad 6 weeks ago. It is so incredibly painful and the grief can come over me in such an overwhelming war. Treat yourself gently and try to do small things that will help you; eat good food, rest and try to talk to others about your feelings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and you will follow your own path of grief. I have been listening to a podcast called the grief coach which has been helpful at times. You are not alone. I believe we are wired to be able to cope with such a loss, as most people do. In the end. Take extra good care of yourself. Baby steps.
Thank you appreciate your kind words. It comes over me in waves and it’s so painful and struggling to understand why it had to happen to my dad. So many what ifs.
My sympathies. The first week is like a blur, you’re still in shock. Be kind to yourself and take it one minute at a time, don’t think ahead, that will only cause panic. Do you have people around you? Lean on them if you can. I’ve lost my dad as well and the pain is indescribable, there’s no going around it. The only thing you can do is try to distract yourself when it’s possible. I’ve found it helpful to read and write on here. Sending many hugs.
The pain really is unbearable. But gradually you will find some times of slight relief. Every time you are overwhelmed, crying or simply staring into space with your thoughts, you are processing what has happened. It comes over me in huge waves too and absolute panic and disbelief. I am trusting the process and trying to let the feelings out rather than repress. I completely understand your despair; you are not alone. Please look after yourself and be gentle to yourself. I’m sure that’s what our dads would want x
Thanks, Ross, and I’m sorry for your loss. The panic is really something else, it scares me, but you’re right, we shouldn’t hold it in. That isn’t healthy and will only make it worse.
It does help to know we’re not alone. In general people don’t seem get how deeply you can mourn for your parents, they expect you to recover just like that.
Try to take care of yourself too. I’m sure it is what our dads would want, but it’s the hardest thing ever right now.
Thank you. It’s so very painful and I can’t understand why he had to go. I long for the day I can see him again
I know, I do too and it’s impossible to wrap your head around it. It doesn’t seem real.
It is making funeral arrangements now and having disagreements with the family it’s so hard