I lost my dad in July, i looked after him for months while he was poorly and was there when he passed. Since then, although i have brothers and sisters i have had to deal with all the notifications and probate. I feel like i havent had chance to take it all in. I miss him so much, but i’m finding it hard to tell people how im feeling.
I feel that they think i should be over it more than i am.
Now i have to sell his house and its just breaking my heart sorting through all of his stuff.
Im not sure how to cope with all these feelings
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Hi pdev👋🏻
I am new to this SR group myself ,my situation surrounding your loss is very similar to my experience.I am still not at work after becoming mentally exhausted with it all.The mixed emotions is a roll coaster I want to get off but after almost 2 months now, the best advice I can give is be patient & kind with yourself, it has took me until now to realise that.
Take care, we are here for you 
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It is heartbreaking having to deal with it all. It almost doesnt feel real as so focused on the next step , the next letter or email to sort. I dont even feel old enough for this responsibility (35) but our dads be proud of us stepping up 
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Thank you, i feel so alone sometimes, even though i know i’m not. I just dont want to let him down x
Dealing with the hime is awful, i agree! I am doing the same although my brother is helping. We had a similar experience to you.
My mum died in May and i cant think straight, i dread going to her house to sort things and just feel adrift.
People keep saying ‘have you sold the house yet’ not ‘how are you coping’ as they think i am over her death.
Just know you are not alone and i am sure it will get better. I am sure your dad would be so proud of you finding the strength to deal with everything. Take care.
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