Hi all, haven’t posted for a while.Its 2yrs since my dad passed away now,just wondering how you are coping with similar timescales.
Sometimes I seem to be ok with it all and then sometimes it’s very raw again, thinking about him day and night.I don’t seem to sleep well anymore, always waking during the night.Visiting his grave seems to calm me in a way.I feel it’s my duty to make it tidy,the least I can do.I love to talk about him but never seem to get the chance much now, no-one asks anymore.I suppose that’s how it goes.
1 Like
Hello @GeeGee,
Thanks for sharing this with us. There is no timetable for grief. You might want to read our support page on how long does grief last, which talks about the kind of feelings you’re describing.
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts too. Take care,
Seaneen
1 Like
Hello GeeGee
I am with you every step of the way. Two days ago was the 21st anniversary of my dad passing away.
I too take care of his grave and have done since he left us.
He was my hero, and my saviour whenever I needed him.
After his funeral I was cross that eveyone was enjoying meeting up again and having a laugh and joke. " Why didn’t they understand I had lost my father " ??
But thats what life is, it goes on all around and only time and taking care of yourself brings any solace.
Time does pass but the ache remains but after 21 years it never leaves.
The memories are there and they loved us and knew they were loved, and we love them still. The grief is the pain we share for the love we have for them.
Take care and I am here if you need to reach out.
Hi @Phoebe8
Thanks for your message,it was reassuring to read and see that I/we are not alone in grief.I can feel it will never go away but with time it may ease.There will be ups and downs.Dad was my role model as a boy,I aspired to be like him.I was lucky that we worked together later on and that was something I will never forget.
Life does have to go on doesn’t it.
Thank you for your message and I’m glad it brought some comfort.
I too love talking about my dad, and when people recall memories of him it brings him back too, and to know that he has meant something to others and they have memories too.
The last couple of days that has happened, out of the blue. It brought a smile to my face instead of tears to my eyes.
It’s those moments that are precious.
The grief waves still come but now the smiles come to. It has been a long while but take each day as it comes.
Our Dads have been a big part of our lives and we have been lucky to have them, we will always have them with us, hear their voices, and feel them close.
They are the things that keep me going when I am low.
Keep safe and reach out whenever you need to.
Big hugs for us all.
1 Like