Hi, first time on here really don’t know were to start. Lost my Dad 5 months ago on my birthday. Its his birthday tomorrow he’s 72, he was a young 72 still worked part time and was practically fit as a fiddle so thats why it came as a shock when we lost him. It was his heart, no signs or nothing, Dad just thought he had abit of indigestion a few days beforehand.
I struggle so much him not been here as we were so close, 52 and still a Daddys girl lol. Some days are better than other’s but this week ive been up n down like a yo yo because its his first birthday with out him, he fell to sleep end of November so everything is still so raw.
I don’t know how I’m going to be tomorrow as im a blubbering wreck now. I have no where to go as he was cremated and and i haven’t got his lil garden done yet…must get on to that!
Suppose what i just wanted to say was i miss him and the pain is awful.
Don’t even know if voicing on here will help, but thanks to anyone who reads this, and hugs to anyone that needs one…
Hello @Shelli_24,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to look at: Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
@Shelli_24
Hi, sorry to hear about your loss.The rollercoaster of emotion we all go through is terrible, you can have an ok day then boom…you have an awful day.
Nothing wrong with being a Dads girl (me too).Our Dads if were lucky show us how relationships should be in life and love us unconditionally.
Five months is relatively short and his birthday will undoubtedly be hard but try and sit and remember the funny,happy memories-you dont need a place to go to think of him.Sending hugs.
Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post…
Thank you for replying to my post