Well I went to bed in the dark last night,woke up in the dark this morning,detected a distinct chill in the air,I have been dreading this since my wife passed fifteen weeks ago,I should be collecting and stacking logs for the cold weather now,but in truth I don’t care.
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Sorry you’re having a bad day. It’s difficult to find enthusiasm in anything at all, but I suppose we should just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Easier send than done. Sending a big hug 
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@Ron11 - my friend, I know that sense of emptiness and silence that is stopping you from collecting the logs. When I read your words, I could imagine your wife encouraging you to go out and do a little bit - to make a start as “you will thank yourself for it later, love”.
Not sure why I thought that - but I thought I would I would share it with you.
Take care x
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Thanks love,that’s probably exactly what she would say,still maybe tomorrow eh.
Kind regards Ron.
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That’s the ticket, @Ron11 - tomorrow is a fresh start and if the weather holds, maybe bringing one basket of logs into the house will feel good. 
x
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@Ron11
For every log you stack, your wife will be stacking one with you, they still work alongside us in spirit in everything we do
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I hate the dark nights and when i go back to work it will soon be dark mornings going and coming home then there will be icy mornings, snow etc hate that even more now especially if anything happens with my car because i wont have anyone ti help me x
Yes, I have to order and stack logs, too. Hard to get up the motivation, but on the other hand one will regret it come the winter, if there’s no fire. We always did the stacking together; he’d throw them in the log shed, I’d do the neat rows.
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I sit for hours doing nothing and it’s not helping me. But i guess we deal with it in our own way. Like us all we all cope differently.
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When i lost my husband i taught myself to crochet via youtube needed something to occupy my brain then i found diamond painting which helped kind of got out of doing it for a long time due you to working in the community as a carer but got back into it when i began working in residential care, it is very theraputic ,i havent done anymore due to my loss but i will get back in to once i get some motivation x
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So Sorry for your loss sending you lots of hugs
Just know we are here for you
Hi Lyn,
Yes she will,the log fire in winter was one of our greatest pleasures,sat cuddling with a glass nothing better,sadly gone forever.
Apart from practical things that you really have to do, like logs and boiler servicing, I refuse to let my mind wander to possible future problems.
I will not think about long cold lonely nights, Christmas, how I will feel on his November birthday or anything else difficult until it arrives. My brain is too busy trying to cope with the here and now.
I won’t meet trouble halfway. It will find me soon enough without me inviting it in. Xx
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Hi @Judy10 I’m like you sit for hours then could kick myself for not getting on with things. Oh well tomorrow is another day.X
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@Ron11 its 4pm now and I’ve spent all day in bed, crying, thinking, smoking and drinking cups of tea and feeling hungry! And beating myself up for doing nothing.
I just managed to find some fish fingers and fries in the freezer, popped it in the air fryer, so I had something to eat. I’m going to get up now and tidy for 15 minutes. Then I’ll have a shower and go for a walk.
Thanks for your encouragement and directing me to this post.
I hope you manage to get some logs, slowly but surely. X
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Your very welcome,I am glad I could help,
That’s what we are all here for to help and support each other.
You take care.
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