My daughter&her husband were not found after a diving boat tragedy in Egypt on Nov 25th.
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I am so very sorry to hear of the horrendous loss you are going through. I can not begin to imagine the emotions you must be going through and the worry you have been through. I myself have been on many dive/tourist boats in the Red Sea and can appreciate this complex situation (and distance in another country) makes what you’re feeling, thinking and experiencing ten times harder I’m sure.
Reaching out to this community is a good step.
I have found some comfort sharing things here after losing my mum. I think I just needed to let it all out. She was my best friend and losing her has left a huge painful void in my life that doesnt reduce. I struggle to move forward. I’m still going through her belongings, it’s a painful process but I have to do it as I’ve emotionally hoarded so many of her things - things she’s kept from my childhood and her life journey. I continue to have difficulty with guilt and have resulted in paying for private therapy (NHS waiting lists huge). I think guilt will always plague those that love truly and deeply. For we love them, we will never think we’ve done enough - but really we could do no more. I also then a year later lost my beloved dog and father) and subsequently returned here to vent my pain. I hope the great community here can bring you the some comfort, no matter how small. Sometimes just little sharings can help a lot, even just temporarily.
I have found it so much easier to communicate with fellow grievers. People that have not lost a close loved one(s) just don’t get it.
Keep communicating as this is such a difficult time for you, don’t suffer alone.
I’m here if you want to talk or offload.
Sending hugs and strength.
Ps sorry for the long woffly reply and I hope it makes sense, or some of it.
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Dear Ceej,
Thankyou so much for messaging, to know someone is out there and understands is supportive and very helpful.
To see and hear others who know of our pain being so eager to wish each other a happy new year in our presence is so painful, but of course they do not understand. I must keep choosing to forgive.
Your dear Mum…so loved and treasured by you, no wonder you keep many of her belongings…and you don’t need to rush through sorting them out, and deciding what to keep. Take your time dear friend.
My very elderly Mum died 3 years ago, and my father died in 2008. We were close too.
There is to be another BBC article about the safety and integrity of the Egyptian liveaboard industry soon. And so hopefully innocent lives can be saved.
Sending you love and gratitude
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