Dead Dad Club

If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.

I often think about this quote when I think about my dad. 9 months today, and I’m riddled with so much angst and melancholy.


Hello @ExperiencingLife,

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. It sounds as though things are very tough at the moment and you are feeling extremely anxious.

I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

Take care - keep reaching out,


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Hi @Alex

Thank you for your kind message of support, I appreciate you taking the time to reach out to me and respond to my post. I will have a look at the services you’ve listed below - Again, thank you.


This resonates so much for me. It’s less than a week for me and it feels like I tried so hard to save him and failed. I’m sorry for your loss. :heart:

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Oh, I’m so sorry for your loss.
The early days are the hardest, please be so kind and gentle to yourself. You did not fail your father, I promise you he wouldn’t want you feeling this way. Give yourself time to process what needs to be felt, nurture yourself in this time. You did the right thing joining this community, you’re not alone in your grief :heart:

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I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is never easy. I lost my Grandad who was my Dad.

I have always enjoyed talking about Gran/Dad with others really comforting. Sharing stories about the jokes he’d make or the things he liked. If you ever want to talk about your Dad I would love to listen.

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Thank you, I am sorry for your loss too.

That’s a beautiful way to remember your GranDad, I love that for you. I do enjoy reminiscing on the good times too - When it was good, oh it was great! My dad was a brilliant man. One day, when I’m ready to share more about him, I will. Thank you for extending your support, it really does mean a lot. I too am here to listen to your stories :blush:

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Thank you for saying so and for your kindness. I just wish I could be as sure. I regret so many of my decisions these last few weeks and berate myself for them.

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It’s still early days, so you’re fresh in your grief. The default for most people is regret, and the depression is usually immediate for some despite what people say. It’s most important that during this time, you’re kind to yourself and interrogate those thoughts that are trying to convince you that ‘I failed’. You’re in a lot of pain, and it’s difficult to be objective about the feelings you’re experiencing when your mind is clouded with so many intense emotions. Let’s message privately, I want to support you during this time. It’s not easy, I was in the peak of that place and it’s was very dark and lonely :heart:

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