Dealing with more then one loss

Hi I just had the awful news that my mum sister is in hospital but there nothing they can do and she has been put on palliative care for whatever time she has left. This is just after I lost my mum in June and her funeral was only last week and her sister was there. I’m still grieving for my mum and trying to move on but this news has just hit me like freight train ,I feel like I’m back at the beginning with mum’s passing and not sure how to cope with another loss so soon after mum’s. I feel so sorry for my cousin he has already lost his dad and younger brother and I know what he is going to have to deal with because I’ve only just been there. He has a partner who I know will help him with the loss. We just have to be there for each other again x


Hello Gem7,

I’m so sorry to read about the news of your mums sister. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.

Take good care,

Ive been in your position with family very close together on passing ,you will feel devastated and must be finding it so difficult to process , take comfort from others and be gentle with yourself, your thoughts will be all over ,my daughter said to me its okay to not be okay , thinking of you at this sad time.

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Hi Raffy thank your for your kind words. Yes it is difficult at the moment dealing with it all . And my emotions are all over the place but all I can do is be there for my cousin like he was there for me, wise words from your daughter thank you again.

Hi Gem7

I am so sorry to hear the devastating news about your aunt and loosing your mum. I can only try and imagine how you feel. I lost my mum in February, and sadly we have lost around 10 family members in the past 2.5 years. It has been so difficult as you do not have chance to process each loss. Loosing my mum was devastating for me, sadly 2 of the passings were her 2 remaining sisters.
Please try to take care of yourself with self care. I have also found writing in the Sue Ryder journal has helped me to write my feelings down. xx

Hi shelly2
Thank you for your kind words. Yes mum loss sadly still affects me most days and then the news of her sister doesn’t help. But sadly that how it seems to be when one goes the other’s are not far behind. That a good idea to write your feeling down maybe I will try that you take care x

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Hi Gem7

It is my pleasure. I hope writing things down helps
I can only imagine how you feel. It is so hard when there are cumulative losses.

Take care xx