Hi im Allison and felt the need to join this group today. I lost my husband suddenly on 23 July this year, we had been together since i was 19 so for 39 years, im totally broken 
and finding life without him by my side so hard. Im hoping to converse with others in a similar situation, thank you for reading x
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Hello Allison, so sorry about the loss of your husband. 3 months is still very early in your grief process so no wonder you’re feeling broken and at a loss. I know it’s not for everyone but bereavement counselling really helped me. It might be worth trying if you feel you could. The only other piece of advice I can give is to take it day by day and don’t focus too far into the future yet. Once I felt stronger I joined my local leisure centre and a walking group. Having something to do made me feel a bit more myself again after such raw grief. Good luck and take care x
Hi , I am sorry, it is so hard. I lost my husband in June. This is my first post, I don’t have any advice, am feeling very lost myself. People keep telling me to take things one step at a time. I hope you have people around you, to hold you up. I hope we both find some help here.
I lost my husband on 26th July after 31 years and, like you, I am struggling to cope. He was my world and I can’t come to terms with knowing I’m on my own from now on. I feel your pain and I’m hoping this group will help me on my journey to recovery.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Like me it’s very early days. So hard to imagine a future. I keep trying to run away from this by keeping very busy but nothing can put this right or change it. I would love to hear from people who have somehow survived. I have good friends and family but they don’t really have any idea of how this feels, as I didn’t .
I hope you get lots of support here.
Hi I’m so sorry for your loss. I sadly lost my husband of 34 years on 6 august 2025. One minute he was alive and I came out of the bathroom to find him dead. He was only 54. He was my best friend and soul mate. I’m really struggling as are, our three children . Especially the youngest two who had to give their dad CPR it was horrific. It would be great to talk to others who are going through the same thing as myself . Sending love
I am so sorry, it is so unbelievably hard. You must be in shock. I found it so difficult to take in, I still can’t believe he’s not here.
I hope you have lots of people supporting you. Last week I went to a drop in for bereaved people and it was some help being with others who really know what it’s like.
Take care
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Thankyou . Yes , I very much am in shock . I still think he’s going to walk in the door . He was so full of life and energy, loud and boisterous. The house is too quiet without him . I still have my younger two children 19,23 at home with me . It’s so hard on them also . I’m trying to be strong but it’s just too much some days .
I am so sorry for your loss Allison. I lost my husband of 50 years in January - still can’t quite believe he’s gone but I’ve had to move twice since then and have been overwhelmed with all of it. Things do get better but hard to believe that at the moment.
Look after yourself.
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My mum is going through a similar situation meeting my Dad when she was 18 and lovely 32 years together. She didn’t expect to be widowed at 49, I’m trying my best to support my Mum but I think understanding there are other people out there that understands this loss may be helpful so thank you so much for sharing so I can show her she’s not alone and that there’s a community here to share feelings and support each other.
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I am finding meeting and talking to people who have lost their partners is helpful. I think there is a level of understanding that exists and I haven’t found this with my friends who have been lovely but really haven’t experienced the depths of sadness and loneliness. The silence really is deafening.
I try to go out/ do something with people everyday, it distracts me a bit but doesn’t change anything, it is also exhausting at times.
I miss my husband so much.
Hoping that today will be a better day for everyone.
My dear husband died 5 years ago and I have found things a struggle .Now my 50 year old son has wide spread kidney cancer and I am finding things so hard. Any advice
This sounds overwhelming. I don’t have any advice but I hope your son is being very well looked after and that you have some good support. I have found that I have needed to lean on friends and family and have accepted offers of help that I probably wouldn’t have before. Our lives are turned upside down so quickly, I find everything seems fragile now
I’m sure it’s so hard for both your mum and yourself . It’s hard to believe it’s really happening to you and you do feel like your the only person in the world who is suffer. 49 is so young to lose your husband . I thought I was young at 53. Sending you both love 
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