Sometimes I look at obituaries for whatever weird reason I cannot understand … but it occurred to me that all those poor souls also lost family members and grieved and then their turn came.
inconceivable! and some are young, 40s 50s 60s. maybe younger.
I know about grieving. but I must remind myself not to do it too much because my time will come too and then I might wish that I spent it differently. I miss my parents terribly but I have to be careful about moping too much. 
Wise words. I remember my parents well, the happy lives they gave to my siblings and myself. Also the tremendously loving and caring husband that I now mourn. But, as time goes, I try to carry on with my life, though not always easy, to appreciate the good things - love of family and friends, all the good around us, and try not to mourn too much or read the obituaries, which surely do not lift our mood. Deidre
thank you for replying. maybe in part because it makes me feel closer to them, in death. I am sorry you lost your mate.
I get what you mean @berit and you make a good point. I hate being miserable but sometimes I just can’t help it; actually I am probably sad more than miserable but I hate that too. It’s now been four and a half years since my husband passed and I miss my man like no other. However, I refuse to spend my life moping around; it’s simply too short, so I live for both of us. Yes it’s hard but each day I try to have a spring in my step with David in my heart. 
what he would insist that you do! 