I’m 45 my wife was 47 got told on Friday that she had terminal cancer she died on the Monday she was so real we were together for 28 years she was my soulmate how do I go over this how do I go on is there anyone else going through the same sort of thing sudden death did expected please help me if anyone else is going through this
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It is not the exact same thing but I am 39 and my husband was the same age. 12 weeks ago I walked downstairs to find him on the floor and gone. Obviously I don’t have all the answers but I think I understand that it won’t be real yet for you. The only way to get through right now is to exist and feel the pain.
My husband passed away 6 weeks ago at the age of 60 with stomach cancer. It is so sudden i find myself crying at such small things.
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My son 47 passed away on the 17th July .just after being diagnosed with secondary bone cancer primary not know.suspected gastric. Some of the cancers show no symptoms until it is too late.
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I lost my husband 10 weeks ago suddenly from a heart attack, he was only 56 and a fit man. He’s my soulmate and we have been together for 38 years.
I found asking myself what do I need to get through this and homing in on a few specific useful things helpful. In the first few days I remember thinking I needed to drink plenty of water, eat at least 1 meal a day however small it was even though I had no appetite and to be kind to others and to myself. I found by doing acts of kindness this helped me as it made me feel that there was still good stuff in the world when everything felt so wrong and overwhelming.
I’ve continued to use this question throughout the weeks to focus on what will support me at that point which does change but there have been some common threads for me which has been reassuring.
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
Three weeks ago my husband collapsed at home before me and suffered a fatal cardiac arrest, no signs he was unwell, fit health man aged 60
Shock had been enormous, just trying to navigate each day hour by hour.
Any help to somehow gently move forward would be appreciated
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@Jane40 I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s so very hard. My husband died very suddenly whilst on holiday, this was 9 weeks ago. I did, and still do just focus on getting through each day, sometimes just each hour.
I’ve been writing a journal and complete it every day, I use it to tell my husband about the day and about my feelings. I find it an enormous help even though it doesn’t go anywhere near to filling this giant hole in my heart. 
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Exactly the same as my situation. I take a day at a time. Take care
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