I have recently lost my Dad. Lived together for 67 years… He died due to neglect at my local hospital. I also lost my Mum 7 years ago under similar circumstances at the same hospital. I have logged a complaint but it was back in August and not heard a word from them yet, l don’t have any close family and have had to cope alone, with his sudden illness and death at home, literally everything and l don’t seem to be moving on at all. I hardly go out, don’t feel like mixing with crowds… Where do l start l wonder…
1 Like
Hello @Anne2421,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad and your mum. I really hope you get word back from the hospital. You might want to contact PALS (Patient Advice and Liaison Service) if you haven’t done already. They can help you with any next steps.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
1 Like
I’m so sorry. It hurts a lot. Please don’t put pressure on yourself to ‘move on’. While that phrase may apply to a relationship break up, it doesn’t apply to the physical loss of someone you love. They will always be with us, but not in the way that they used to be. And that is really really really difficult.
And sorry about the neglect, too. That intensifies the pain. You’re entitled to chase for a response. I did with a concern I sent into the hospital, and it turns out they were waiting for advice on process, and whether or not to ask me for the grant of probate 
. I had the grant and happily and rapidly supplied it. I can see myself having to chase for a response again, fairly soon.
1 Like