I lost my mum 3 months ago and I’m struggling so much am helping dad come to terms with mums death as they were married 53 years,Mum did everything for dad and I’m trying so hard to help him by making his meals and doing his cleaning ect and I’m trying to be strong for everyone but feel like I have nowhere to turn
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Hi Echaz I’m so sorry about the death of your Mum, you need help and support as well as your Dad, you are grieving for the person who gave birth to you and has loved you all of your life, it’s incredibly difficult to come to terms with the loss of your Mum, I think you need to support each other, have you any siblings to help with your Dad, take a day at a time and be kind to yourself, sending love Jude xx
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s amazing you are caring for your dad but you also need time for contemplation and to focus on yourself. I feel something similar although my mum only passed last week. My sister has special needs so I’m dealing with all the painful practical things on my own and it all feels cold and clinical and really all I want to do is cry and let my emotions out but feel like I can’t . Try to take time for yourself x
Hi I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in a similar situation. My mum passed 3 months ago and I want to wrap up my dad as it breaks my heart even more knowing he’s so upset and low. I see him every day. My sibling only sees him once a week as he’s working. This puts on more pressure to me. I’ve tried to ask for more support from him but no help has been given. It’s like his getting on with his life. I couldn’t do that as if I had the same approach then my darling dad wouldn’t see anyone til the weekend.
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Hi lovely, I’m so sorry you lost your mum. I lost mine 8 weeks ago. I too worry about my Dad. Like you, my mum did everything round the house and kept a tight reign on the finances. He is utterly lost without her. Thankfully my brother is helping out practically because i have a serious chronic illness, but I often feel that I need to include Dad in everything nice that I do because he enjoys going out and doesn’t have any friends (my mum did all the socialising). And also my brother wants me to keep my Dad company or “Dad sit” every time he wants to go out which is a lot. It’s so hard isn’t it. It’s a lot of pressure when we are grieving too. I wish I had answers for you. Just wanted to say I understand and to send you a big virtual hug and strength. I think you’re doing amazingly well. Much love xxx
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